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Trust is not about liking someone…

Trust is not about liking someone…

I think too many people make that mistake. They like someone, or they are attracted to them, and so they believe they can be trusted. As the commercial says, “That’s not how this works. That’s not how any of this works.” I know that people trust me FAR MORE now that...

The 5 DISagreements: 1. Your word is your sword.

The 5 DISagreements: 1. Your word is your sword.

You’ve probably heard of The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by bestselling author Don Miguel Ruiz and Janet Mills. Today, we’re going to leave all that positive stuff behind, and look at the dark underbelly of communication: The Five...

The tongue has no bones…

The tongue has no bones…

…but it is strong enough to break a heart. There are a lot of people online who say, “It’s just words. Words can’t hurt you if you don’t let them.” To which I say, “Bullshit.” That’s is crap psychology of the highest degree. Words 100% can hurt, and they KNOW this,...

KinkIn15: Redolent

KinkIn15: Redolent

The word of the week is “redolent”. To participate, create a 15-word story with redolent or redolently. I can't wait to see your creativity! smiles A perfect lazy Sunday in spring:The air redolent with thunder and rain and sex.

“You used to be so nice.”

“You used to be so nice.”

“No, Sandra, what I used to be was a pushover with crappy boundaries, and I let you walk all over me, and you loved that about me.” About six years ago, I taught a class in Greensboro, NC. I think it was a communication class. At that class, unbeknownst to me, was a...

Sexperiments: Blindfolds

Sexperiments: Blindfolds

Having sex with a blindfold is not exactly vanilla, but it’s not what I’d call kinky, either. It’s a good comfort zone for many to dip their toes in and try something a bit different. And there are good reasons to try blindfolds in bed. 1.Shutting down your sense of...

Are you single? Or are you freelance?

Are you single? Or are you freelance?

In her Service Basics presentation for Dating Kinky’s Life in Submission (March ’21 — https://datingkinky.com/learning/life-in-submission/ ), UnrulyNerdGirl made the point that as a service submissive, she preferred to call herself freelance, rather than single....

One of your best?

One of your best?

His Steelers lost. We had a deal. He was going to go do "guy's night" and watch the game and get drunk. I asked that he make sure he was sober enough to enjoy some sexy times after with me, either in celebration or in comfort. He came to me and buried himself in me....

Part of my dominance is reshaping your view of the world.

Part of my dominance is reshaping your view of the world.

Consensually. Actually, collaboratively is a better word. Because I work with my partners to recreate themselves as who they most want to be. And that usually requires that they learn to see the world differently. Perhaps it’s more possibilities, or different angles....

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