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You’re Always Being Used For What You Offer

You’re Always Being Used For What You Offer

Sounds cynical, right? Maybe. I don't feel like it is, though. We all do whatever we do because we get something from it. The question is: What do you provide that people want? If it's money or help in things, rather than making them feel good about themselves, well,...

Bossy Bottoms & Subdued Submissives

Bossy Bottoms & Subdued Submissives

This writing is now available as a podcast episode! Inspired by an email I received on 10/14/19. You know what I've found? That many submissives mistake submission for helplessness. Not speaking to anyone in particular… just something I've observed. For example, I've...

Settling is Shitty

Settling is Shitty

This writing is now available as a podcast episode! I got into a conversation on twitter yesterday about online and offline dating and how many people write their profile one way but want something else, and are discouraged about getting that something else, so they...

Dating Kinky News Brief (COVID-19 Special Episode)

Dating Kinky News Brief (COVID-19 Special Episode)

Hi all - castaway is back with a special news break. Normally, I go for a tongue in cheek tone with these posts as I bring you, my readers, the Dating Kinky related news updates. But, there's a time and a place for everything, and this Coronavirus pandemic is...

Playing In Public Consensually

Playing In Public Consensually

This writing is now available as a podcast episode! So, I wrote a chapter in my FLR, FemDom and Women In Charge book (out this month, benefiting FAD), answering the question: What Do We Do In Public To Exhibit Our WIC Relationship? And, as usual, most of it applies...

What is YOUR Trap?

What is YOUR Trap?

This writing is now available as a podcast episode! In a forum devoted to men and developing their dominance, someone posted this: My mind was attached to a specific image of what it meant to be manly. It invested its entire self-worth into preserving that image. My...

Potential Pitfalls of Power Exchange in Long-Term Relationships

Potential Pitfalls of Power Exchange in Long-Term Relationships

This writing is now available as a podcast episode! So, in the first week of January, I holed up and wrote. 68 chapters, about 38,000 words. All about FLR, FemDom, and Women In Charge relationships, also known as "the book for March" to my team. It's part of my 12...

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