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The grand romance, AKA: What I want

Last night, My partner and I watched An Officer and A Gentleman. My first time. His idea. Actually, he and his friend, who also watched it with us. Great movie. At the end, I said, “So, did they make this a military movie, so the guys wouldn’t feel so bad going to see a romance?” […]

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Do the math: the numbers are depressing.

In my recent writing about standards, someone mentioned that while they think standards are good, that they can be taken too far, so that you eventually filter out all potential matches. Which is the point I made in my recent video, “7 Reasons Your Online Dating Profile Isn’t Getting The Response You Want” when I […]

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Why don’t you just lower your standards?

To me, standards and boundaries go hand-in-hand. Boundaries inform standards of behavior at the very least. And it’s not healthy to lower those. But let’s say we’re talking about other standards. How someone looks, for example. Why should I care if I’m attracted to someone? Why should you? Don’t we all have a right to […]

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The remote control to your brain…

I wrote last week about how perception changes how we experience reality. A lot of people got it. A few didn’t. They wanted to discuss what is actually real, and how dumb it is to wish away the bad stuff. 🙄 Some people wanted more details on the subject. OK! smiles Let me start with […]

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THIS IS THE LIFE.

I interact with a lot of new people. They find me and write, and say, “Hey, I’m new to all this kinky stuff.” And I write, “welcome to the wonderful world of kink. It’s full of fun and danger and astonishingly awesome people and a few bad seeds, and there is so much to do […]

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Do your crazy kinky thing.

☝️☝️ Words to live by, if you ask me. You didn’t ask me though, LOL! And I’m going to tell you anyway. And it doesn’t have to be your kinky thing. It can be your poly thing. Your golf thing. Your storm chasers thing. It doesn’t even have to be WHAT you do. It can […]

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