by Bettina | Apr 9, 2021 | General Love & Romance
Imagine this: There you are at an event, trying to be all cool and seem perfect. Across the room or the internet group of the online social is a great match for you. And THEY are also putting on the perfection face. And so while you both have an interest, neither of...
by Bettina | Apr 7, 2021 | General Love & Romance
Earlier this year, an article popped up in my recommendations: “If you want love, study it first.” I admit that I cribbed a bit on the title, but I think that mine is better anyway. Because people give and receive love without study. We just seem to mess it up a...
by Bettina | Apr 5, 2021 | General Love & Romance
I think too many people make that mistake. They like someone, or they are attracted to them, and so they believe they can be trusted. As the commercial says, “That’s not how this works. That’s not how any of this works.” I know that people trust me FAR MORE now that...
by Bettina | Mar 23, 2021 | General Love & Romance
Well, I’d put down my book, anyway. I don’t really play many games. Solitaire on my phone sometimes. But the point here is more than what I’d pause or put down or put off. It’s about bids. Bids for attention. John Gottman studies couples. And he can predict with an...
by Bettina | Mar 16, 2021 | Blog, General Love & Romance
Alternatively, they could be super-stressed, or actually incompetent and frustrated that you don’t recognize their struggles. A friend recently brought this meme to my attention. It says: “Narcissists train you not to ask anything from them. Every time you need...
by Bettina | Mar 11, 2021 | General Love & Romance
A core of any good relationship, kinky or otherwise, is support and encouragement. Most people in power exchange relationships intuitively understand that this it’s important for the dominant to support and encourage their sub. And it is. I also present to you that...