Lift, Love

Lift, Love

When I’m talking about kink and nonmonogamy and relationships, I’ll often use the analogy of strength training or lifting to explain how something are uncomfortable and often painful (even days beyond the original event), but that they help strengthen our...
Ethical and consensual applies to your hookups, too!

Ethical and consensual applies to your hookups, too!

It’s strange that I need to say this, but I feel like I do. National Unicorn Day was last week. This week (this morning in fact) I got a message that said: Hello we’re a experienced couple looking for a unicorn with no drama if interested let us know And their profile...
Happy National Unicorn Day!

Happy National Unicorn Day!

In a relationship, a unicorn is often an outsider who is brought together with the poly’s to engage in sexual activity and/or a full-blown relationship. Most often, unicorn refers to a bisexual woman, with “dragon,” “minotaur,” and other mythical creatures (and the...
It’s your life, not theirs.

It’s your life, not theirs.

And that’s really what it comes down to, yeah? What we do in our relationships consensually with other adults matters to us. And others should just butt out. If only it were that easy. Because for some reason, people feel it’s their right to say who and...
Hey, jealous me!

Hey, jealous me!

A lot of people say they couldn’t be poly or nonmonogamous because they are jealous. As if jealousy is not allowed in those lifestyles. I’l tell you, it’s there. And it’s treated differently than in monogamy. Not that it’s welcomed and invited in. Or even wanted. But...
Nonmonogamy: I do what I want.

Nonmonogamy: I do what I want.

This clipped post seems pretty benign at first. Even TRUE. Obviously, because it’s been reposted and clipped and shared by many. And that troubles me. Because the wording in this makes a lot of assumptions and statements that I find deeply problematic. First of...

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