Hey, jealous me!

Hey, jealous me!

A lot of people say they couldn’t be poly or nonmonogamous because they are jealous. As if jealousy is not allowed in those lifestyles. I’l tell you, it’s there. And it’s treated differently than in monogamy. Not that it’s welcomed and invited in. Or even wanted. But...
Nonmonogamy: I do what I want.

Nonmonogamy: I do what I want.

This clipped post seems pretty benign at first. Even TRUE. Obviously, because it’s been reposted and clipped and shared by many. And that troubles me. Because the wording in this makes a lot of assumptions and statements that I find deeply problematic. First of...
Nonmonogamy: What could go wrong?

Nonmonogamy: What could go wrong?

If I’m gonna answer that question, I’m going to be 100% honest: Everything. Everything can go wrong. Just like in every relationship style ever. And to me, that’s 100% the wrong question to ask. Because when you focus on what is or could be wrong, you’re focused on,...
“Poly” as lip service?

“Poly” as lip service?

With It’s Not Cheating coming up this weekend, and over 1,000 RSVPs for this event, I’m pretty much steeped in nonmonogamy discussion, talks, thinking, writing, producing, promoting…well, lots of it. And over the years, this topic keeps coming up… People ask me...

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