The Big Book Of Ass: All about anal play and pleasure, including training, communication, safety, and more is the second Dating Kinky Presents book.
This is Nookie’s second book all about butt stuff, the first In Through The Out Door was published in 2015. In The Big Book of Ass, Nookie and kinksters from around the world answer your biggest questions about playing with your (or someone else’s) backside.
Here’s a sneak preview:
The Big Book Of Ass is scheduled to release on July 1, 2019 (watch for giveaways and promotions), with free downloads on Amazon August 1-3, 2019.
The Big Book of Ass is part of the Dating Kinky Presents series of books, a new book series I’m creating to educate about kink in a friendly and approachable way.
It’s my goal to share not only my own experiences, but the
experiences and ideas of other kinksters on each topic. As we all know,
there is no WON TWOO WAY, and a variety of voices and perspectives will
speak to the amazing variety of kinksters in our community.
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CW: trans and potentially transphobic language in use.
I teach a class on anal play. It’s a great class, full of fun and laughter, and it’s a gender inclusive class, because every gender has a butthole.
But, not every body has exactly the same butthole pieces-parts.
Because some bodies have p-spots, and some have g-spots.
And these differences are important when discussing pleasure-giving to people with chocolate starfish.
Because while spear-fishing for poop sharks can be insanely good sexy times for all, the whats, wheres and hows differ on the bodies and their sexual maps.
This weekend, I’m traveling to Gettysburg, PA to Naughty Noel, and I’m presenting that class, and I’m working on The Big Book of Ass (which I’m WAYYYYY behind on, but that may be a good thing, as this writing could help make it better and more inclusive), and I want to make sure that I’m being as clear and as gender inclusive as possible.
Which brings us to the reason for this post.
This morning, I received feedback on a recent class I gave, and the quote was:
“I appreciated the attempt to be inclusive of all gender ID’s & sexualities, but it wasn’t entirely effective. For ex: ‘people w/ prostrates’ instead of ‘male bodied people’ etc. The language was a bit bothering at times.”
First, I’d like to say “THANK YOU” to the anonymous person who wrote that, as it gives me a new place to start learning from.
I don’t want to be bothering (although I’m not sure I can be 100% not-bothering to everyone).
I do want to be inclusive, and I do want to be clear.
So, I’m asking for feedback.
I had been lead to believe (several years ago) that when speaking of specifically sexual characteristics, male-bodied and female-bodied was OK.
I read that comment, and went searching the ‘net, and I now know that those terms are considered transphobic and cissexist.
Which I don’t want to be, and don’t feel that I am.
What I am is clueless, and not from lack of trying.
Funny this should happen now, after writing just yesterday on occhiolism, and how I know very little (next to nothing) about being non-cis.
The universe has a way of driving it’s point home, I find.
So, I’m looking for ways to speak specifically about biologically sexual/physical differences in bodies and be gender inclusive.
People with prostates (suggested in the feedback) or Gräfenberg spots.
People with p-spots or g-spots.
P-spot havers or g-spot havers.
Of course, the same for penis-, testicle-, vagina- or clitoris-havers.
What else is right and clear? What else puts trans- or nonbinary-folk at ease and educates?
Maybe that’s all.
If so, that will have to be enough.
As a writer/educator, I’m asking so that I can lead by example when I present, and when I share on FetLife and other sites.
My new book, The Big Book of Ass, has a chapter titled, “Well, they do it in porn, don’t they?”
In this chapter, I talk about how even porn stars don’t do what they do without A LOT of prep and training (not to mention the “behind the scenes, between-takes stuff), and then days, even weeks of recovery after intense scenes.
Yesterday, I was approached by a man commenting about one of my pictures and posing a question to me:
“Ok so in this picture you have a cuck who I assume you never had sex with but let him worship your feet to some degree. You’re an absolute image, truly gorgeous and from what I can tell a high calibre domme and human being in general. This cuck would love to be inside you but he didn’t (again assuming), he only got your feet.”
“…the thought of being restricted to only be allowed a certain level of intimacy is seriously messing with my mind.”
“When you’re with a sub/cuck do you truly believe they are less than you? Not sure if I can handle the answer.”
I battle this every day on behalf of myself and on behalf of kink.
What you see in porn and online fantasy is GREAT, but it’s not real.
It’s no more real than Jackie Chan being ACTUALLY drunk in Drunken Master. It’s got the same basis in reality that Hans Solo or Jabba does.
Oh, that never grows old for me. And neither does anal play. There is so much amazing pleasure to be had that is overlooked because “It hurts,” or “It’s wrong.”
Let’s talk about anal pleasure and separate fact from fiction, demystifying the process.
Sexy, Safe & Pain-Free Anal (Including Pegging!) Class Description
Based on my book In Through The Out Door, this class is for those of you curious about anal, but (get it, butt? LOL!) worried about the pain, the mess, the ghey, and more. Come and spend some time with me learning about spear-fishing for poop sharks! *smiles*