Let’s Debate: Sex—Quiet? Or Loud (And Let’s Wake The Neighbors!)?

Let's Debate: Sex—Quiet? Or Loud (And Let's Wake The Neighbors!)?

Sure, sure, I get it.

There are times when you just CAN’T let ‘er rip.

Maybe the kids are asleep, or you folks are staying for the holidays.

Or, maybe those things don’t bother you at all.

They do bother some people, though, as this young lady recounts:

I am loud in bed. It is hardwired, always was.

All my life I have been a bit self conscious about being loud. It is what it is and in the end, who cares what the neighbors say? Right? I have countless hours with my face deep into a pillow. Trust me.

One new lover recently on the first and only encounter got so put off by it that he shrank to nothing. He asked me NOT to make any noises please…and just lay still.

I was blown away. I tried to be a silent statue as he wished but did not work for me. It all ended there. That was a new one for me.

What are your thoughts?

Given the perfect scenario of no one around to hear, no chance of being walked in on or discovered…

  • Would you prefer loud or soft?
  • How loud is too loud?
  • What about talking? Dirty talking?
  • Laughing yay or nay?

And in not-so-perfect circumstances, if you like loud, what are your guidelines for keeping it down and still having a great time?

I look forward to your replies.

Let’s Debate: Bi- And Switch-Phobia

The bisexual flag with the word "BOTH" overlaid.

Content warning: r^pe mentioned.

When I post these debates, I often don’t have an opinion, and I say so.

In this case I do, and I will say so. First, though, I’ll present the idea and the two sides as I see them. I’ll likely do this imperfectly. Just a warning.

Biphobia and switchphobia are not really “fears,” per se, but a pattern of beliefs that makes people less likely to find those who identify as bisexual or as a switch desirable.

There are many reasons/excuses, and some are similar for both bisexuality and switching, while some are different. Continue reading “Let’s Debate: Bi- And Switch-Phobia”

Let’s Debate: Is Cinderella A Good Role Model?

Cinderella: Stop Blaming The Victim

I watched this video a few months back, and it gave a different side to the Cinderella story—one that shows Cinderella as strong, capable, and authentic.

What do you think?

Is Cinderella a good role model for girls because of her persistence in the face of adversity, or is she just a meek, timid woman waiting for the white knight (prince) to rescue her?

Let’s Debate: Does The Dating World Hate Men?

I’ve been hearing this idea for a while, and when I saw in my calendar today that this was my topic, I thought, “Of course!”

Because I’ve been having several conversations about just this recently, with a variety of people.

The Dating World Hates Men

I read this a few months back, which is what inspired this writing:

“I’m a guy and I don’t get attention, but women do.” Guys. Welcome to the dating world. It sucks. It’s biased. And it hates us.

Women will ALWAYS receive a much larger interest than us men. Why? Because they’re women. I don’t mean that in a sexist kind of way, I mean it in a societal kind of way. Guys want more, guys see a woman and immediately jump at the chance to be by their side. Guy are guys.

Which kinda made me puke a bit in the back of my mouth. Continue reading “Let’s Debate: Does The Dating World Hate Men?”

Let’s Debate: Is This OK?

Lying

I read this article A few months ago:

8 Lies I Tell My Husband (That Actually Make Our Marriage Stronger): Sometimes lying is far kinder than telling the absolute truth.

I also read the comments that went with it in the post I saw on FB, and they were sharply divided on whether or not she was doing the right thing.

If you don’t feel like reading the whole article, she justified the following lies:

1. “The sex was mind-blowing.”

It’s a “lie back and leave him to it” sort of situation… Marital harmony is worth a few white lies about his sexual prowess. Continue reading “Let’s Debate: Is This OK?”