Coastal Carolina Fetish Fair, Myrtle Beach, SC

Coastal Carolina Fetish Fair

I’m teaching at Coastal Carolina Fetish Fair again!

I Command You To Understand! Communication For Kinky Relationships

Thursday, 2:00 PM to 5:00 PM

No matter where you turn for advice in this world of kinky relationships and power exchange, “Communicate,” is the first thing you’ll hear. So, what is communication? How do we get better at it? In this special three-hour workshop event, we’ll talk about the pieces of communication and how they add up to make a successful kinky relationship.

Dating Kinky, The Class

Friday, 10:00 AM

In this class, we’ll cover some of the most important actions and attitudes for finding one or several lifestyle partners, from writing your profile and choosing the best photos to get your point across to making contact, common pitfalls, and some hilarious examples of ‘when personals go wrong!’

We’ll also discuss which online sites offer the best options for connecting with your kinky peeps.

This is an interactive class, so bring your pencil or pen and some paper to write down those tips from the creator of https://www.datingkinky.com and the author of Dating Kinky, The Book

Behavior Modification

Friday, 11:15 AM

What is behavior modification? It’s how behavior is changed through interaction. In D/s circles, we may call it training, but even in vanilla situations, behavior modification happens whether you want it to or not. So, since it’s going to happen anyway, why not do it right? This class is all about the basics of behavior modification and how to make it work for you in your relationships,
and how to use it as the basis for more in-depth D/s training.

Protocol 101

Saturday, 11:15 AM

What is protocol and why do you need it? Not all protocol is bowing and kneeling and “yes, Sir,” and so on. Protocol can be every day traditions and rituals built over time. In this class, we’ll explore the many types of protocol, and how to choose the protocols you want most in your life and your relationships.

 

INSTRUCTIONS TO PURCHASE YOUR TICKET FOR COASTAL CAROLINA FETISH FAIR

Go to Event Registration that’s https://www.eventbrite.com/e/coastal-carolina-fetish-fair-2018-tickets-44854522083 and enter your pass word which is CCFF2018, click the arrow that appears beside the password. Next click on Ticket. When the window opens select Tier 1 Ticket ( There is no Promotional Code) and be sure to add 1 to the box that asks for number.
Before you pay, be sure to check the size if you are ordering a T shirt.

We Look Forward To Seeing YOU at the Fair.

CCFF 2018 will be even bigger and better this year!

CCFF 2018 will be expanding to four, yes four days! We will be open on Thursday November 15th through Sunday November 18th. That’s two extra days of shopping, classes and fun!

On November 15th we will begin registration around 10am (subject to change), so when you arrive come on in and get registered!!

Thursday opening will be early afternoon, we will have classes that day. The vendor hall will also be open from about 3-5pm for those of you who like to get a jump on purchasing that special something.

In the evening we have a chance for you to meet and get to know some of your fellow kinksters and vendors at our mixer.

There will also be a fashion show planned that evening for your enjoyment. We encourage you to attend, and for the exhibitionists in the group we encourage you to costume up and strut your stuff down our catwalk. Categories include Leather, Latex, Lingerie, and Freestyle. Men and women are encouraged to strut! Prizes will be given to the winners.

Stay tuned for more exciting news about the Thursday night meet and greet activities.

We will also be expanding our dungeon space! This year there will be two dungeons open on Friday and Saturday nights. MORE space and an additional night will be added this year.

Aug 1st to Oct 31st = $99.00 limit 200 tickets
At the door: $125.00

Kinky Kollege, Chicago, IL

Kinky Kollege

I’m teaching at Kinky Kollege!

STDs & STIs—What Do You HAVE to Know to Make Informed Decisions?

There is a lot of mis- and dis-information still around about sexually transmitted diseases and infections that could make a HUGE difference in what you consent to, how your consent, and how you choose to play.

FemDom: Finding Your Feminine Leadership Style

There is a lot online and in print about domination, mostly male-oriented, because, let’s face it, there are more of them than us. There is still a lot about femdom out there, too, though. Unfortunately, it seems like a lot of that is actually written by men, too, being over-sexualized and fantastical. This class is about the real deal. How to find YOUR perfect balance of hot, sexy, tough, firm, loving, sweet, and whatever else you want to throw in the pot. Based on my series of Women in Charge books (available directly, posting on Amazon Soon).

Cuckolding for Couples

Cuckolding is a hot trend online these days, but is it a viable kink? I’ll give an enthusiastic YES! Not only is it a fun fetish for cuck and cuckoldress, but it actually enhances intimacy, love, creativity and fun in your relationship. Based on my popular 2 1/2-month online course, this class covers setting ground rules, finding a bull, creating an amazing cuckolding relationship and troubleshooting.

 

This event will take place at a beautiful hotel & convention center just 10 minutes from O’Hare International Airport and a short ride from Downtown Chicago.

The Nation’s top Alternative Lifestyle Educators will be at Kinky Kollege offering classes on everything you always wanted to know but were afraid to ask.

The curriculum promises to be orgasmic. Earn credits toward your Masters (or Master’s) degree with accredited classes designed for students at every level of experience, ranging from beginners to the extreme edge player.

There will be many classes, spanning all three days of the event, providing for an intense educational opportunity. Some classes will have hands on lab time and opportunity for professional coaching.

STDs/STIs: More Partners Does NOT Equal More Risk

STDs / STIs

There is a lot of misinformation going around about STDs/STIs, and one of the biggies is “the more sexual partners you have, the higher your risk of having something.”

It seems logical, right?

The more people you have sex with, the more likely you are to catch something.

Nope.

No.

Not at all.

That’s not how science works.

And to be clear, this isn’t what I was actually planning on writing about today. I was going to write about open relationships, and how Mayim Bialik got it all wrong in one video, then got it mostly right in another.

Mayim Bialik gets it wrong.

Mayim Bialik gets it right.

But, as I was reading comments on the second video, I saw quite a few focusing in on the title topic, and remembered a conversation I had on the same topic a while back, and was inspired.

How Risk Of STDs/STIs Works

The relevant statistics are not the number of people you have sex with, but the risk levels of the people you have sex with.

It’s basic disease vector science.

Let’s look at an example of a disease vector I intersected with earlier this year: In late January, early February, the flu was going around. I was quite ill, so I went to the doctor. He thought I might have the flu, but he also thought I might have had a quite severe respiratory infection that may require quarantine.

Now, the reason he thought I might have the flu is obvious: So many people near me in North Carolina had the flu, and I was a breathing human.

However, the reason he had me tested for that nasty respiratory infection was not because I was breathing around so many people in North Carolina, but because I had a 12-hour layout in the Middle East on my way back from Thailand (and naturally had to breathe once or twice while there), and that put me at risk.

The issue was not that I breathed (had sex) but that I breathed (had sex) with a high-risk group multiple times for a period of time, without taking precautions like a mask (condom, papers) that might have reduced my risk to almost nothing.

This is how disease vectors work.

It’s not how many people you breathe around (sleep with).

It’s how many people you breathe around (sleep with) that pose a risk.

AND, factors like personal immunity and health always play a factor as well.

Let’s look at two extreme examples…

First, the person who have had sex 100 times, but only protected sex with untouched virgins.

I’m not sure this person exists, truthfully. However, I’m making a point.

Second, the person who has monogamous unprotected sex with one person (ever) with syphilis.

Who’s more at risk of STDs/STIs?

Obviously, the second person.

(Unless the first person made out with someone with mono, shook hands and then touched their eye with someone who has a herpes outbreak and had just touched their genitals (perhaps in the washroom, without washing, slept on the same sheets as someone with crabs, or ate food carelessly prepared by someone with hepatitis, etc.)

And if that second person has sex multiple times with the same infected partner, their risk increases through multiple exposures.

Still, our faithful here is not 100% guaranteed to get syphilis, based on their having that sex, even multiple times. Some people have immunities and barriers that protect them in ways that are not yet fully understood by science.

Just as some people rarely get sick (I rarely do), and some get sick quite regularly.

So, to recap, it’s not the number of partners you have sex with, it’s how risky your sex is multiplied by their risk factors and so on.

And according to some, that is a HUGE risk, suggesting that even one male partner in his twenties can equal sex with 479,201 people. And that’s one partner.

The fearmongering crowd can be quite vocal.

As they say in finance…

“Past performance does not equal future results.”

Just as in investing, the number of people someone has slept with does not equal their history of STDs/STIs, nor does it suggest that they will continue that exact same rate into the future.

People change. Motivations change. Hormones and desires change.

So, in closing,

You have an absolute right to choose your own safety level for you.

Choosing your personal boundaries when it comes to the sex you have, how safe it is, and what sort of disclosure you want from your partner about current interactions and status is 100% OK.

Just don’t think you can beat actual diagnoses and science by simply totting up their bangs.