Photos on a kinky dating & connections site—what to do?
I get it.
You’re here. At Dating Kinky. That’s a big step. Congratulations!
And now, you need to pick an avatar or share some photos that represent who you are to the rest of the DK community, while also not giving away more than you’re willing.
Right?
Well, it’s totally possible.
And I’m going to share a few of the best ways I know with you.
So, How do you stand out and show off, when you’re also trying to maintain your anonymity?
Are you still a bit nervous about what you can and should show, while protecting your identity while searching for kinky people to connect with?
While I’m ‘out,’ and show my face easily to all, not everyone can do that, because of, well, reasons.
So, how do we show our authenticity without exposing our personal lives to scrutiny?
Take photos without your face.
It’s easy enough. Show your pieces & parts. Be careful, though. If you have an identifiable birthmark or tattoo, you may want to work around that.
None of these photos are explicit.
All of them protect the identify of the kinkster. And while several do seems to show ideal bodies, they are not required, and many people love “a bit of fluff,” and enjoy people without the perfect shape (whatever that is).
If this is like your tattoo, for example, it’s pretty recognizable, and so you may want to take care how or whether you post it:
You have plenty of options.
Hide your face with Face Pixelizer
When you want to use that photo, like this one I took while visiting Joshua Tree National Park in July 2017, but you don’t want to show your face.
Before Face Pixelizer
After Face Pixelizer
Now, my hair is a pretty obvious give-away for anyone who knows me, but I could have obscured that, too, if I’d wanted.
Mostly, I like sharing with potential matches the kind of life I enjoy, in and out of kink.
Show off the life you love.
Speaking of the kind of life I enjoy, like Joshua Tree National Park, above, don’t think that all of your photos on a kinky dating site HAVE to be kinky or sexy or whatever. Kinky dating INCLUDES the vanilla—the non-kink parts of you as well.
Just like you would not probably determine a match by sharing a single TV show addiction, or by the fact that you both love to play golf, you’ll want your potential kinky match to match in other areas, like hobbies, leisure, politics, etc.
Show off who you are with photos from your lived life.
Share photos of your kinks and fetishes.
This can be a variation on “Take photos without your face,” but can also include photos of others that you have practiced your kink on.
Like these photos of a micro branding I did on a friend’s thigh, some knife play, and a rope scene.
Sharing bits of who you are through your kinks is a great way to personalize your profile, without having to share identifying features.
Wear a mask or a costume.
Play dress up and use photos of you that show off the fun you like to have, without giving away who you are to the world.
Another version of this is adding snapchat filters to existing photos, to obscure identity after the fact.