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I’ve heard over and over that no matter their role, people have a hard time figuring out what to say during sex. That’s why I devoted my class in january 2021 to dirty talk and how to make the most of your sexy time speaking. Our PLUS members get access to every replay, so they never miss a moment!

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People kept asking me WHEN I am going to teach this, or that, or the other thing, so I committed to teaching at least once a month for Dating Kinky.

And frankly, it’s made me realize that since I’ve not been able to travel to meet people all over the world as I usually get to do, I miss it. I have tackled many topics this past year, from Dirty Talk, the Alpha Submissive, Cuckolding, Behavioral Modifications, and D/s Contracts, among others.

And I have a ton more planned for you! 

I hope you’ll join me for my upcoming events. *smiles*

Host, Founder

Nookie (she/Hers)

I was lucky enough grew up in the lifestyle and around people of every color and bent, and I was taught that acceptance is the highest form of love.

I identify as a hedonistic dominant cuckoldress-pimptress who is polyamorous and monoromantic.

I joke that my primary fetishes are communication and behavior modification, but I love everything power exchange and the mental game of kink, along with butt play. *grins*

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Nookie Teaches! Online & Off

So, I teach. I LOVE to teach. In fact, even my vanilla life and profession has been mostly about teaching and inspiring others.

So, doing this in kink is just delightful!

I teach online, I’m willing to travel to teach with the right incentives, and I’m also happy to create classes around needs, if I feel comfortable teaching the subject.

I’m happy to provide references for my teaching, and if you’re reading this, and have seen me teach, I’d love a testimonial.

I love to travel and meet kinksters from all over. I dream of a day when I’ve been to all 50 states and overseas, getting to teach in every place I go… Wanna help?

*smiles*

Anyway, if you’re interested in my teaching, please do reach out with a message.

(You can see nearly 100 testimonials on this FetLife Page.)

No matter where you turn for advice in this world of kink and power exchange, “Communicate,” is the first thing you’ll hear. So, what is communication? How do we get better at it? We’ll talk about the pieces of communication and how they add up to make a successful relationship.

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-6hrs
(This class can be run as an interactive workshop starting at 2hrs+.)

In this class, we’ll cover some of the most important actions and attitudes for finding one or several lifestyle partners, from writing your profile and choosing the best photos to get your point across to making contact, common pitfalls, and some hilarious examples of ‘when personals go wrong!’

We’ll also discuss which online sites offer the best options for connecting with your kinky peeps.

This is a very interactive class, so bring your pencil or pen and some paper to write down those tips from the creator of https://www.datingkinky.com and the co-author of http://datingkinkybook.com

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-6hrs
(This class can be run as an interactive workshop starting at 2hrs+.)

You know you are submissive. And yet, you are a strong, take-charge kind of guy or girl, which makes some dominants complain of topping-from-the bottom, or claim that you’re not submissive at all. How do you find your submission and yield, when the time is truly right?

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-2hrs

Have questions? Nookie’s Q&A is the place to be! It’s all about asking whatever questions you have about kink, BDSM, D/s, and all of the things that go into WIITWD (What It Is That We Do). Common topics include: communication, negotiation, terminology, best learning options and more.

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-2hrs

What is protocol and why do you need it? Not all protocol is bowing and kneeling and “yes, Sir,” and so on. Protocol can be every day traditions and rituals built over time. In this class, we’ll explore the many types of protocol, and how to choose the protocols you want most in your life and your relationships.

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-2hrs

In this class, I’ll share the top ten questions people interested in non-monogamy ask, and I’ll answer them. We’ll cover relationship styles (and how to choose what’s best for you), jealousy (the good, the bad, and the ugly), communication (and negotiating your communication needs), scheduling (including downtime), dating (Where do I find?) and more.

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-2hrs

Contracts are simply written communication that you can refer back to at any time, clarify, even change or update as needed. We’ll talk about the benefits of contracts, how to create them on your own or collaboratively, and how to live with and maintain them—also, what happens when a contract is broken?

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-2hrs

Sexy, Safe & Pain-Free Anal, Including Pegging!

Based on my book The Big Book of Ass, this class is for those of you curious about anal, but (get it, butt? LOL!) worried about the pain, the mess, the ghey, and more. Come and spend some time with me learning about spear-fishing for poop sharks! smiles

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-4hrs
(This class can be run as an interactive workshop starting at 2hrs+.)

I’ll touch on the best of the best tips:

  • Telling a FemDom She’s Not Real To Maintain Your Sense Of Power
  • Offering Immediate Sexual Favors Before The Introduction (And Hopefully Before She Realizes What A Tool You Really Are)
  • Whining About How You Deserve A Chance To Serve Her, Since No One Else Has (Yet) Been Willing To Put Up With Your Pustulence
  • Explaining Her Favorite Kinks To Her Patiently, Until She Sees It Your Way
  • Calling Her “Goddess” and Bad Cybering To Show Your Utter Desire To Serve: *crawls on belly to lick your feet*
  • And More!

You are 100% guaranteed to repulse EVERY FemDom you approach with the arsenal at your disposal. Even ONE of these, deployed properly can close and lock even the most accepting “pussy gates” forever.

And, of course, we’ll talk about how to actually NOT do these things, and actually meet amazing, interesting, caring, fun and REAL FemDoms online.

If you want to do something as boring as all that.

*smiles*

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1 1/2 hours

Why is it call a blow job? Because it’s work! LOL! Learn the best and most pleasurable techniques for combining work and play in this class all about going down on his throbbing staff of manhood (or on her cock-of choice). We’ll discuss the dominance and submission of BJs, the physical parts of the male “charms,” how to give an how to receive graciously, and WHY it’s really called a blow job!

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-2hrs

Live a kinky life 100% authentically, knowing that you are making your BEST choice every step of the way. We’ll discuss boundaries and how to maintain them, and the ONE question to ask yourself that will help you live a life full of amazing experiences and NO REGRETS.

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-2hrs

Learn how orgasms work, how to give them, how to get them, and how to increase their intensity and frequency! What makes orgasms so fucking fabulous? We’ll talk about that, then we’ll discuss how to get the most of your body and your orgasms, including the many different kinds of orgasms you can have, and how to train yourself for multiple orgasms whether you are male or female. This class will blow your mind! Or, at least your wad. smiles

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-2hrs


There is a lot online and in print about domination, mostly male-oriented, because, let’s face it, there are more of them than us. There is still a lot about femdom out there, too, though. Unfortunately, it seems like a lot of that is actually written by men, too, being over-sexualized and fantastical. This class is about the real deal. How to find YOUR perfect balance of hot, sexy, tough, firm, loving, sweet, and whatever else you want to throw in the pot. Based on my series of Women in Charge books (available directly, posting on Amazon Soon).

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-4hrs
(This class can be run as an interactive workshop starting at 2hrs+.)

What is behavior modification? It’s how behavior is changed through interaction. In D/s circles, we may call it training, but even in vanilla situations, behavior modification happens whether you want it to or not. So, since it’s going to happen anyway, why not do it right? This class is all about the basics of behavior modification and how to make it work for you in your relationships, and how to use it as the basis for more in-depth D/s training.

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-6hrs
(This class can be run as an interactive workshop starting at 2hrs+.)

Cuckolding is a hot trend online these days, but is it a viable kink? I’ll give an enthusiastic YES! Not only is it a fun fetish for cuck and cuckoldress, but it actually enhances intimacy, love, creativity and fun in your relationship. Based on my popular 2 1/2 month online course, this class covers setting ground rules, finding a bull, creating an amazing cuckolding relationship and trouble shooting.

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-6hrs
(This class can be run as an interactive workshop starting at 2hrs+.)

What is it about spanking that we all love so much? How can we heighten our senses, and use our brains and thoughts to get even more out of spanking? I cover history of spanking, positions, mindset, role play and humiliation in this entertaining class.

Time Allowed: 45mins, 1-2hrs

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