Dating Kinky

Built by kinksters for kinksters, poly, queer, trans folk, and anyone not-quite-vanilla—and it’s FREE.

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I’m a dominant. I built Dating Kinky!

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I’m a switch,
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What's different about DK?

We Don't "Other" You.

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What's different about DK?

Be YOU— No Judgment!

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We Care—No, Really!

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Venus is joining us for Sluts, Trollops & Tramps: Women in Ethical Non-Monogamy, a look at women in kink who don't limit themselves to just one lover. We'll discuss the challenges, getting started, and all the fun to be had in this lively panel.

Venus Cuckoldress

Greta Jane is leading our talk focusing on pleasure. How to find it, explore it, and work through and with shame to increase it and free it.

Greta Jane

Nookie, our founder, will be featured in our kick-off talk, Domme Breakfast and will be hosting and facilitating discussions all day long. As a dominant woman who never fit the mold, she's thrilled to be able to spotlight so many freaking awesome women in this event!

Miss Nookie

Luna (he & they pronouns) is a non-binary polyamorous princess Daddy. They are a sapiosexual, fiery Sadist, cherished Dominant, and a devoted Maschochist. They are participating in our panel for non-women supporting women in kink.

Daddy Luna

Venus Cuckoldress

Greta Jane

Miss Nookie

Daddy Luna

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Recent Blogs

January 28, 2020 The Underappreciated Wholesomeness of Kink

The Underappreciated Wholesomeness of Kink

January 27, 2020 BDSM Vs. Abuse

BDSM Vs. Abuse

January 21, 2020 Fly Fishing For Your Needs and Wants

Fly Fishing For Your Needs and Wants

January 20, 2020 BDE (Big Dick Energy) and Confident Versus Cocky

BDE (Big Dick Energy) and Confident Versus Cocky

January 15, 2020 The Problem With Blaming Victims of Abuse

The Problem With Blaming Victims of Abuse

January 13, 2020 How Do YOU Get Into The Right Headspace?

How Do YOU Get Into The Right Headspace?

History & Roadmap

Prototype Development & Proof of Concept

2017 - 2019

Jan 2020

Big Book of Ass + Learn To Love Anal Online Class

So, What is Kinky, Anyway?

Feb 2020

March 2020

"Launch Again" New Version & PLUS Membership

IKWD International Kinky Women's Day

March 2020

Q3, 2020

Mobile Apps Android & iOS

Giving Back Give Back To The Community

Q3, 2020

Jan 2021

14th Book Published 12 books in 2020

Featured Article

Really? FREE Kinky Dating?

Well, nothing is ever free. SOMEONE always pays. So, who pays for Dating Kinky, since we're FREE to use? I say that Dating Kinky is "built by kinksters for kinksters, poly, queer, trans folk, and anyone not-quite-vanilla—and it’s FREE." And I mean it. It's not free to everyone, though. Some people will pay.

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Featured Article

The Red Flag Diaries

How Do They Respond To Your First "No"? An overreaction to a "No" is rarely itself going to be dangerous. At least not the first time. It's just a warning that things may become perilous moving forward. Emotionally, physically.

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Dear Poly Partner…

I need to get something off my chest. I told you not to cancel with [YOUR OTHER PARTNER] because I never want to be resented for forcing your hand. Because I don’t want [YOUR OTHER PARTNER] to feel like I do when I get second place on a double booking...