In poker, the term “all-in” in poker means that a player has put the last of their chips into the pot. When a player is “all-in”, they can not perform another action because they don’t have any chips left.

They are totally committed to the outcome of that hand. Right now. It decides whether they can play another hand or lose irrevocably.

Are you an all-in player in love?

Now, I don’t necessarily mean that you put your job at risk, or your children. You are still an adult with adulting responsibilities.

But do you go all in? Do you put your cards on the table? Show your hand?

I do. I have no time or energy for hedging my bets in relationships. Every decision, I stand behind with all my love chips, for good or ill.

I choose to win or fail spectacularly.

Even when I lose, I have the memory of a good game played well.