August 2015 • Dating Kinky

August 12, 2015August 10, 2018

The Other Side Of Pussy Privilege

So, I wrote yesterday (I’m trying to write everyday for a while) about pussy privilege, and how I understand it, and the parts of my personal ethic that I have created as a result.

Today, I’d like to discuss some of the things I did not say yesterday. The things that go along with that privilege.

I wrote about privilege first, because thoughts of it affect me more, so please don’t think I’m whining. I’m not. This writing is more to balance things out and give another perspective than anything. Continue reading “The Other Side Of Pussy Privilege”

August 11, 2015August 10, 2018

About My Privilege—Especially Pussy Privilege

I have privilege. In many, many ways. I know this. Not all ways.

Growing up, we were never rich. I never had the cool clothes. I was never part of an “in” crowd. I went to public schools, whatever was around. I didn’t go to camp, or take part in educational extra curricular activities…

Unless you call tromping around the woods catching critters like a wild child ‘educational extra curricular activities.’

I kinda do. LOL! Continue reading “About My Privilege—Especially Pussy Privilege”

August 8, 2015August 10, 2018

I Posted An Ad On Craigslist And I Got Derided For Posting My Dress Size

“Fantasies are never fulfilled, because they and reality can never exist in the same space.”

This is the second in a three-part series, based on a recent Craigslist ad. The first is here:

I Posted An Ad On Craigslist And I Got Compared To An Alcoholic Or Druggie

This particular reply is related this this part of my ad:

I’m moderately attractive. Some think I’m beautiful. I’m curvy, a US size 8-10.

Continue reading “I Posted An Ad On Craigslist And I Got Derided For Posting My Dress Size”

August 7, 2015August 10, 2018

I Posted An Ad On Craigslist And I Got Compared To An Alcoholic Or Druggie

So, now and again, I post ads on CL. For dates, to meet new people, bulls, heck, I even buy and sell things sometimes.

I recently posted an ad. I described myself:

I am super-smart and interested in your mind as much as your body. I’m good at sex and sensuality and believe there is more to a successful encounter than a grab for the genitals.

I am polyamorous. I am also very selective.

I am bi-sexual, feminine, and driven. I prefer my sex with a side of connection, and a hint (sometimes more) of kink.

I’m moderately attractive. Some think I’m beautiful. I’m curvy, a US size 8-10.

I am a woman who likes to take charge. What does this mean to you? It means you can be yourself. Strong, capable, loving, aggressive, successful… and you can be mine. 100% devoted and rewarded for it with deep intimacy, powerful love, and amazing sex.

I got 137 replies before I turned the ad off. Yeah… pretty much par for the course, if it doesn’t get flagged by people I’ve rejected. LOL! Continue reading “I Posted An Ad On Craigslist And I Got Compared To An Alcoholic Or Druggie”

August 3, 2015May 29, 2019

No Regrets

If I have ONE rule in relationships—kinky relationships, PE relationships, vanilla relationships, any kind of relationships—it’s ‘No Regrets.’

Now, I don’t mean doing something, then afterwards having to slap the “no regrets” label on.

I mean take every step in a relationship knowing that if it were to end tomorrow, or 5 minutes from now, or a year from now, that you would have No Regrets.

And when I say, No Regrets, I mean No Regrets if he tells you he never loved you. No Regrets if you find out she was cheating on you. No Regrets if you find out he stole all that you have. No Regrets if she tells you that you have a small dick, and she’s never enjoyed sex with you.

Seriously. No Regrets.

And it’s simple. Not easy, not at all easy, but simple.