So, humiliation (giving) used to be a hard limit for me. It was a definite no-go. I don’t like to tear people down, I like to build people up.
Especially those I have responsibility for.
And frankly, what interest should I have in a “lowly worm, lower than the dirt beneath my feet” anyway?
And I have ZERO interest in playing a part or acting a role. Not my thing in the bedroom.
But, I’ve changed that. Because Pet likes humiliation, I’ve learned.
And what I learned (for me) is this:
Humiliation needs to be true (or it’s not humiliating), but it cannot be the TRUTH (or whole truth).
In other words, I cannot lie to humiliate.
I also cannot make fun of something that I believe is a true fault.
So, I can tease Pet about having a small cock because he’s literally the smallest man I’ve ever had sex with.
I can also humiliate him that way, because I love his cock, no matter the size, and he is the best lover I’ve ever had, regardless of the length, width, staying power, or lack thereof.
On his end, the humiliation works because he knows I’m telling the truth, but he also knows that no matter how mean I get, he’s in a place of love and 100% acceptance.
On the other hand…
I can’t make fun of him for being a weak, pathetic little boy, because he’s not. He’s amazingly physically fit, and dynamic. That sort of thing is obviously not true, and would roll off him like water off a duck’s butt… and would not be humiliating.
I also can’t make fun of something that is actually a serious issue in his life. For example, if he had serious anxiety disorder (he doesn’t), I could not add that to my humiliation list, as it would be too true, and not provide a safe, accepting place.
I’m not saying humiliation is like this for everyone. For me, though, this is how it works.
And I LIKE it!