“The Sub Has All The Power…” *cough cough* “Bullshit.”

A crumpled piece of paper with the word "rubbish" written on it.

I mean, it’s kind of the point that the sub doesn’t have all the power. They don’t want it. They specifically want to give that up!

Seriously.

Who thinks up this drivel, and speeches it out like gospel so that new kinkies take it to heart and pass it on?

I’m in danger of spraining my optic nerve every time I read that drivel from some internet gobshite, due to my extreme eye roll.

STOP SAYING THAT.

Now.

Please.

And in case your logic centers are not firing, because you’re too excited for those NYE parties coming in a few hours, let me logic this out for you.

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The Four Kinds Of Kinkster

The Four Kinds of Kinkster

1. The kinkster who pretends to know all the kinky things for any variety of reasons (superiority, authority, power, etc.) but don’t actually know what they are doing.

2. Those who actually believe they know all the kinky things but are completely wrong.

3. People who admit they don’t know all the kinky things, and let that paralyze them because they believe types 1 and 2 are being truthful.

4. Kinksters who are ok admitting they don’t know all the kinky things and just get on with it anyway.

I prefer the last kind.

*smiles*

Poly Is NOT For Everyone. (Poly Is Not, Part X)

Polyamory Is Not... A Series

I was recently walking with a friend who said to me, “I don’t know if I’m poly, really, or just want an open relationship.”

My reply was, “Well, you probably won’t know until you meet someone who you feel is a god fit as a primary, and want to keep looking. Or after that, when you are just playing and dating and satisfied, or you want more and deeper connections.”

I’ve recently been accused (in my last writing on poly, actually) or proselytizing.

I’m not. Continue reading “Poly Is NOT For Everyone. (Poly Is Not, Part X)”