A few years back, someone said this to me. That they loved when I made my ownership and power over them explicit during everyday activities.

Which made my heart swell and my eyes light up with excitement.

And, honestly, made me pounce.

A fun time was had by all.

And a few days later, I started thinking, and I asked a few other submissive types if they enjoyed that sort of thing, and the answers were a resounding “Yes, please!” with one caveat.

That there was already a negotiated power exchange in place.

Which seems kind of obvious to me.

However, thinking back on some interactions I’ve had, I realize that for some, that’s not at all obvious to some people.

Which I truly don’t get.

I wrote a blog a few years ago, asking Why would ANYONE want to touch someone who does not want to be touched by them?

I still wonder that.

And this is the same type of thing. Why would anyone want to try to claim something that has not been willingly offered to them?

No clue.

But when it has been offered, and that claiming causes them to slowly flush and smile and squirm…

Mmmm. That’s about as sexy as it gets for me.