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Thou Shalt Not Use An Obnoxious UserName

Thou Shalt Not Use An Obnoxious UserName

If you’re serious in your search about connecting with REAL kinky people, then creating a silly, overtly sexual, or bizarre username on dating sites is generally not going to help you and may actually hurt you. Also, keep an eye out for spelling errors, or anything...

What is a date in 2021?

What is a date in 2021?

Zach and I just answered the Kinky Question of the week: Sex on first date: Does it ruin the relationship, or potentially help strengthen the relationship? (You can watch it here: https://youtu.be/nRtzsohtzys or listen to it here:...

A successful relationship…

A successful relationship…

I believe that a successful relationship is one where both people get far more from the relationship than they put in. And I tell people this a lot. If you’ve spent any time with me, you’ve probably heard that a half dozen times or more. Because I’m passionate about...

16 Types of Orgasm?!?!?

16 Types of Orgasm?!?!?

Even experts are divided on exactly how many different types of orgasms there are, and also on how, exactly, to define orgasm. For years, some scientists suggested that orgasms required ejaculation, and since women did not ejaculate (Ummm, WRONG), they could not...

Teasing, my style…

Teasing, my style…

Well, that's ONE of my styles, for sure. But I have a lot of styles, depending on my mood. Some are a bit less…aggressive. More sweet. Kind. Even silly. Most, however, are focused around the sexual chemistry and desire between us. Your need for me—all of me....

I want a selfish lover!

I want a selfish lover!

Someone replied to a post I made in my Women in Charge Facebook group, and said: love is truly wanting what’s best for another with little regard for the self’s personal desires… I disagree 100%. To me, love is wanting what is best for another AND yourself. I don’t...

Please don’t call me… (A Rant)

Please don’t call me… (A Rant)

Someone in one of my Facebook groups called me "Goddess" yesterday. I HATE that term, and the rule in my groups is that you call EVERYONE by name, respectfully, until/unless you have a negotiated honorific with them. So, I said so, and I got some pushback. Of course I...

Your orgasm, my power…

Your orgasm, my power…

According to some, men are sexist if they enjoy giving women sexual pleasure. I wrote about it here. They say that men are making women’s orgasms all about them, and it’s misogynistic and wrong, mmkay? Ok. I get it. My orgasms are mine, and if we get there together,...

Just because…

Just because…

And just because I'm a dominant doesn't mean I will. We often hear the phrase, "I'm a submissive, but I'm not YOUR submissive," and applaud the subs for standing up for their rights. Well, "I'm a dominant, but I'm not YOUR dominant," is also 100% valid. I get to...

Happy National Tea Month!

Happy National Tea Month!

So, this is all about me. I love tea. I drink it pretty much every day, and I like to keep dozens of varieties around, so I can drink tea based on my mood. So, for me to say to someone that I love them more than tea, well, that’s a BIG DEAL. And since January is...

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