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“I’m so empathic!” (Says the manipulative bully…)

“I’m so empathic!” (Says the manipulative bully…)

I’ll start off by saying not all empathic people are bullies. They aren’t all kind and sweet, either. It’s not enough to be able to understand other people’s feelings. You have to also believe that their feelings matter. And the opposite is true. Not all those lacking...

Because I Want It. Because I Need It.

On FetLife, I have chosen the role of "kinkster" as my very own, despite that I live my life as a dominant woman. The reason for that label, as the very-dear-to-me -Kiba- says, "It's the closest thing to 'yes' I could find in the drop-down menu. smiles I am an...

“Why would you say no to that? Unless you’re a little shit?”

“Why would you say no to that? Unless you’re a little shit?”

LOL! This is a direct quote from VioletLyte from last month’s Life in Submission event (Want to join the next one free? https://datingkinky.com/submission ), where they taught The Write Stuff: How to Create Your Own Submissive Resume, Contracts, and Code of Ethics....

“Didn’t Work” doesn’t mean “Doesn’t Work.”

“Didn’t Work” doesn’t mean “Doesn’t Work.”

It might mean, “Did it Wrong,” so fix it and try again.It might mean, “Not this human,” so try with someone new.It might mean, “Lackluster Delivery,” so look at other ways of doing/saying the same thing. It might mean, “Bad Timing,” “Mercury Is In Retrograde,” or...

KinkIn15: Bold

KinkIn15: Bold

The word of the week is “bold”. To participate, create a 15-word story with bold, bolder, or boldest. I can't wait to see your creativity! smiles When he walks by,bold as you pleasewiggles his pretty butt at me.Love.

White Knighting is GROSS, y’all.

White Knighting is GROSS, y’all.

Let’s talk a bit about white knighting and what it is. White knighting has multiple definitions: Defending someone who does not wish to be defended.Rushing to the defense of a general group of people, usually in the hopes that that virtue signaling will gain social...

Wednesday Writing Prompt: Advice in the scene…

Wednesday Writing Prompt: Advice in the scene…

Last week’s Wednesday Writing Prompt was about taking advice from someone in the lifestyle, what factors do you use to determine their expertise? Time in the community? Length of relationship? Something else? Someone had asked this question to me, wondering how they...

I’m NOT telling you what to do…

I’m NOT telling you what to do…

What I write is not proclamations of the WON TWOO WAY, or even the statement that I think you must or should do something. I write to inspire thought. Even when that thought leads to disagreement, and you doing things I suggest you don’t for the best possible life....

Personality Vs. Role

Personality Vs. Role

This writing is based on a conversation which got me thinking. Someone asked me: What difference do you make between dominant personalities and domineering? I replied: Good question! I think there are three parts to the question, rather than two: Dominance in...

Is ALL dating advice gaslighting?

Is ALL dating advice gaslighting?

I read an article a while back that suggested that all career advice for women is a form of gaslighting, because it puts the focus on women to “fix” themselves to fit a broken system of cronyism and misogyny. Which is a lot like radical advice to POCs, yes? Which got...

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