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The weight of the idea of THE ONE…

The weight of the idea of THE ONE…

Last night, I hosted Life in Submission, despite the fact that I'm not a submissive. To bolster my cred, I brought along @selene73 (Happy Birthday to her!) to share her perspectives as a submissive on the idea that you have to have power in order to exchange it. It...

It’s not who you are. It’s who I see you as.

It’s not who you are. It’s who I see you as.

And vice versa. Not long ago, I wrote about the damage I have done some people not seeing them as they wished to be seen. This is my rebuttal to myself, since I often come down on both sides of an issue. On a previous writing, @UnicornHusbandry said: It should be a...

On being understood, intuitively…

On being understood, intuitively…

I've written in the past about abuse in a relationship and recovering from it. And when today's topic popped up on my calendar, it instantly connected. When I got married, I believed that my husband understood me. This belief is what ultimately led me to being abused....

true VS. TRUTH

true VS. TRUTH

When we watch a movie, we can feel our emotions being manipulated. "I can't quit you!" We can feel the tug of our heartstrings. We can cry. We can laugh. All of this is true. We are truly feeling those things. They may be a result of manipulating a situation. That's...

Shitty fucking behavior is still shitty—even when they stay.

Shitty fucking behavior is still shitty—even when they stay.

Yesterday, I wrote about using sex as a weapon, and how it's shitty. I specifically pointed out in the piece that withholding sex is your right. That libidos fail for many reasons, including psychological (not wanting sex is 100% valid). And yet, I still got the "No...

Using Sex As A Weapon

Using Sex As A Weapon

It's a fucking insidious evil thing. And it's so easy. And sometimes not even a conscious habit. Worse, it's often hard to tell when it's intentional, and when it's not. Let's talk about the ways sex can be used to hurt and harm within a relationship: Withholding Sex...

Walking Away Is A Valid Choice, Always

Walking Away Is A Valid Choice, Always

So today, as this prompt pops up on my calendar, I'm brought to mind my own missteps over the past year, and how just being me contributed to others' unhealthy patterns of behavior. Where I was offering my friendship and advice, when what they wanted was…well,...

Let’s talk about TRUST.

Let’s talk about TRUST.

I recently had a conversation with someone online that did not ultimately go positively. They'd asked me a question about my personal experience, and when I replied, they picked at my reply, taking it apart, and then eventually offering THEIR counterpoints and...

So, You’re Masturbating More Now…

So, You’re Masturbating More Now…

In a lot of ways, that's a GOOD thing. After all, it releases stress, helps you sleep better, and a host of other things. You may be discovering new ways to please yourself, or new sensations. Good stuff. Plus, it takes the edge off. YAY! I'd like to bring your...

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