I’ll be honest, this one almost slipped past me. After all, it’s Transgender Awareness Week and I’ve been focused on that.
And that make me feel some sort of way.
So, I’m going to share some of my thoughts about men today, in vignettes.
This morning on Facebook I posted a link to writing about how a woman got fired by Delta Airlines for a post on social media saying, “imagine having the ego of a white man in America 🥺🥺”
Delta?!? WTF? I’m amazed at how asinine people can get.
I mean, OK, it doesn’t align with their values. Honestly, it doesn’t align with mine—I don’t believe in grouping and entire class of people together by factors outside of their control, like age, race, gender, sexual orientation, you get my drift.
And yet, could they have not had a discussion? A negotiation?
Are employees no longer allowed to have personal lives? And opinions and ideas?
Someone I highly respect (a white man in America) called me out, saying that it’s OK to talk about white man’s privilege in America.
When you are specifically talking about privilege. I don’t believe it’s right to stereotype ANY group when you’re being angry and upset.
But for me, that’s a TINY TINY TINY concern compared to being fired for it.
I just disagree with it, the way I would disagree with anyone saying “all gay men,” “all black men,” “all women,” etc.
Yesterday, also on Facebook, I hopped into the middle of a sob fest of men complaining that “masculinity is under attack” in society today because a man (Harry Styles, who I only vaguely know) wore a dress on the cover of Vogue Magazine.
I don’t get it.
Since when is masculinity affected by who wears what on the cover of Vogue (or any fashion) magazine?
How is masculinity affected by what anyone is wearing, or who applauds it?
I mean, seriously. We all lived through the 80s, right?
A few days ago, I posted this on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/CHmOTbtFLjL/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link
Of course, these things apply to all humans. No doubt. I think we see a lot more uplifting content aimed specifically at women. And men deserve some of the feel-good as well.
So, let’s tell boys how amazing they are to us!
I can think of a few things:
• They way they smell. Mmmm.
• Their silliness.
• Their shoulders.
• Their instinct to protect.
• Their vulnerability.
• Their ability to open jars (and doors!).
• Their fuzz.
And more. Of course, not all of these things apply to all men. Not all men are silly. But when they are, I love it. It’s a peek inside a man’s head that I often don’t get from those I don’t know well, and it’s endearing to me.
What do you love about men?
I got a TON of private feedback, possibly more than for anything I’ve ever posted.
I am glad for the men in my life, and I’m hopeful for others. I’m going to give my Pet a big hug and a kiss and tell him right now.
“I love and appreciate you and you are one of the best men I’ve ever known. Happy International Men’s Day.”
He struck a silly superhero pose and said, “Because I’m an international man?”
And I laughed.
So, that’s how I’m celebrating International Men’s Day.