I said, “Don’t do that again,” not “You did wrong.”

I said, “Don’t do that again,” not “You did wrong.”

June 5, 2020

I was not instructing you to feel bad. I did not say you did the wrong thing.
I simply told you not to do that again, or to do something else.

Completely different things.

Oh, I know that SOME people (no matter who they are, or where they fall on the spectrum) think it’s an unforgivable sin that you didn’t read their mind perfectly every single time, understand their personalities in a matter of days, or need correcting.

I don’t.

And I think those people are fools.

I’m guessing it’s not the only thing I’d disagree with them about, either, but that’s neither here nor there.

In fact, I don’t want you to feel bad.

I want you to feel good. Better than you did.

Because now you’re empowered to do something (potentially) better, to please me more, to be more effective. And you’ve been given a choice.

Including the choice to wallow in feeling wrong, if you really want to.

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