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Learning to love the process…

My FetLife profile personal section begins: I like ’em BIG! Big brains are a MUST. Big heart is important as well. I love big dogs (RIP). A big personality is a check for me and you. Big hopes, dreams and goals… I know I have them. And I love something else big: my wins. I’ve […]

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The Responsibility of the Dominant, Revisited

A couple weeks back, I reposted a writing from several years ago, in which I suggest that the responsibilities of a dominant in a D/s relationship IS the relationship. It’s not a popular opinion. I get a lot of push-back from it. ESPECIALLY from dominants. And this latest repost was no exception. A dominant woman […]

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Happy International Whore’s Day!

On 2 June 1975, more than 100 sex workers occupied Saint-Nizier Church in Lyon, France, to express their anger about their criminalised, exploitative, and inhumane working conditions. Today, more that 45 years later, the fight has still not been won. National Sex Workers’ Day, also known as International Whores’ Day reminds us to do our […]

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What you know at ____, what you knew at 20 (or whatever)…

I’m listening to “How to Change Your Mind,” by Michael Pollan. It’s a book about psychedelics and new science, and how people are using these substances to address depression, PTSD, and other mind and emotion issues. It’s fascinating. And in the book, the author interviews many people who have taken trips (in scientific settings and […]

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It’s Pride Month, Y’all

One of my most vivid memories around the idea of “gay” came when I was 11 or so. A friend of mine and I were walking outside, back towards my home for dinner from another friend’s place, and I told her, “John and Sam are eating over, too.” And she said, “John and Sam. Are […]

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Take a moment to honor…

Last week, I posted “a day in the life” of me. I talked about waking in the early morning, and the work I do every day to make Dating Kinky happen. And over the weekend, I took those days off. You might have noticed that there were no posts. Or maybe you didn’t. That’s OK. […]

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Is nonmonogamy good for me?

Yes. Unless it isn’t. Of course. When is it good for you? Well, I’m guessing when you’re doing it for the right reasons, with the right skill sets, which may include: Calendaring Communication Boundary Setting Choosing Partners And more When these things are in place, and you identify as polyamorous or ethically nonmonogamous, then you […]

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