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What are the CO$T$ of dating? 💰💰💰

In the corporate world, we have costs of doing business. Not just the cost of whatever we produce, but the costs of everything: The salaries and benefits to each employee, the freelancer payments, the marketing, the computers and electronics, the raw goods and materials, the waste, the space to do it all in, the electricity, […]

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Coming Soon! DK Mobile Apps!

What a week. I’m writing this today from a friend’s home. My partner and I were evacuated from our home yesterday, thanks to a mold issue. Right in the middle of some pretty intense public testing for Dating Kinky’s new Android App. That was fun and interesting, LOL! Even with that, though, I’m feeling amazing. […]

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If you don’t ❤️ who you’re doing, stop doing them.

LOL! Seriously. Stop doing people you don’t love doing. And I’m not slut-shaming. I don’t mean that you have to be in love to have sex. I mean, if you’re not loving the experience with someone, stop having that experience. Or change the experience. Or something. But don’t keep doing it out of obligation. You […]

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Sometimes, you train them to lie to you.

Do you want your friends and partners to lie to you? Some years ago, I wrote a piece titled, “Ask your friends when they want you to lie to them,” about how we often edit ourselves, or “little white lie” when people might prefer the truth. Today, I’m turning it around. When people lie, sometimes […]

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How long has it been…?

When was the last time you put in effort to show someone you really love and appreciate them? Like something above and beyond what you would normally do? I don’t mean things like taking the trash out when that’s usually their chore, or gave them a BJ (even if you don’t do that often). I […]

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Another look at “Women have all the sexual power…”

I recently posted to my FetLife feed with the same question asked to three groups of people: “What’s the most frustrating part of kink and the kink community for you?” I asked specifically for answers from feminine-identified, masculine identified, and non-binary-identified folk. I put in place a “rule” that anyone who was not inthat group […]

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The great outdoors…

You know what I’m bad at? Getting outside every day. I can get so focused on what I am doing, especially when I’m alone, that days can go by without me stepping foot out of doors. And that’s self-abuse. Or at least self-denial, even though it’s not intentional. Because being outside, for me, makes me […]

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Start somewhere! Just start.

“I just don’t even know where to start!” I can’t tell you how many times people have said that to me in relation to kink and nonmonogamy. “There’s so much I want to do and try, and see, and I can’t even figure out what role I am.” So, don’t figure out a role. If […]

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Boundaries are sexy AF: Emotional Boundaries

Welcome to installment number four in my series about boundaries. The six primary types of boundaries are: Physical Boundaries Intellectual Boundaries Emotional Boundaries Sexual Boundaries Material Boundaries Time Boundaries For far, I’ve covered material and sexual boundaries and physical boundaries. Today, I’m focusing in on Emotional Boundaries: Feelings. Which is not something people talk much […]

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