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Don’t Judge. Refuse To Be Judged.

Don’t Judge. Refuse To Be Judged.

And part of refusing to be judged is knowing you are not judging. Hmmm. That sounds awkward, but what I’m trying to say is that if you are silently judging everyone else, then you will feel, deep inside, that it’s OK to judge, and you’ll accept their judgment of you...

On External Influence To A Relationship…

On External Influence To A Relationship…

@TheDemonPrince commented in an earlier writing posted on FetLife: I have found this an eye opening experience in that very few people seem to give a shit about how they can impact someone else's relationship. That actually makes me sad to read. It's hard to explain...

Let’s Debate: The Responsibility Of The Dominant

Let’s Debate: The Responsibility Of The Dominant

WARNING: This is a long one, and I am very specifically taking a side in this one, then offering my reasoning up for debate and picking apart. I've had several conversations in the past week in which the original writing I did on the responsibility of a dominant has...

“Women… Are Far Superior And Always Have Been.”

“Women… Are Far Superior And Always Have Been.”

I think this is a lovely sentiment by William Golding, expressed in a loving well-intended way. That said, I could not disagree more. To suggest that ANYONE is superior to another because of the genitalia they were born with is akin to judging people by the color of...

No, I Won’t Stop Talking To Your Sub

No, I Won’t Stop Talking To Your Sub

Hi - As one Domme to another, might I enlist your support to please refrain contact with my cuckold and husband, "SubUserNameHere." He is collared, tattooed and owned by me - and he has been very dishonest and naughty. I've gotten messages like this before, so many...

Do It Anyway…

Do It Anyway…

What do I do when I want to speak up, but I'm afraid of rejection? I'd love to go to that kinky event, but I have no one to go with me. I've put myself out there, and I've been insulted over and over. I'm afraid of doing it again. I've gotten comments like this,...

The Missed Benefits Of Argument…

The Missed Benefits Of Argument…

I feel like people have lost the art of argument. Or maybe many just never had it at all. It's not about convincing others or forcing them to your will, for me. Never has been. Sometimes, it's about being there for those who are watching, especially online. But for...

Beyond Non-Consent…

Beyond Non-Consent…

I see a lot of complaints about how society has made it a crime to "even smile at a woman," and the like. Usually from men, but not always. Usually whining, but not always. And I wonder how this is so difficult to understand. Then, I realize that it's not so much the...

What Would You Do If The Bird Does Not Sing?

What Would You Do If The Bird Does Not Sing?

Oda Nobunaga said "Kill it if it does not sing." Tokugawa Ieyasu said "Wait until it sings." Toyotomi Hideyoshi said "Make it want to sing." Make it want to sing. Pretty powerful stuff. When you're having trouble in your relationships, which path do you take? Do you...

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