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Worrying is a waste of time. Preparedness, however…

Worry is paralyzing. It gets in the way. It prevents us from being in-the-moment and really living our lives. Because worrying is really letting the fear of the possibility of something weigh you down, usually more than the thing itself would affect you. And that’s not worth it. Not at all. What is worth it? […]

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HIV Vaccine Awareness Day

I was a child in the height of the AIDS scare, and it has colored my life since I began exploring sex and sexuality. I’ve had friends who died. I have friend who are living with HIV today. My mother worked on the quilt project. So, when I saw that a new vaccine is generating […]

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You’re not THAT kind of _____.

I saw this meme on social media. It said: “Be a little more you, and a lot less them.” Which I liked, but it feels weirdly accusatory and gross and not quite accurate. Because I think most of us don’t every try to be someone else, but what we think we are supposed to be…whatever […]

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Because I Want It. Because I Need It.

On FetLife, I have chosen the role of “kinkster” as my very own, despite that I live my life as a dominant woman. The reason for that label, as the very-dear-to-me -Kiba- says, “It’s the closest thing to ‘yes’ I could find in the drop-down menu. smiles I am an experiential person. I learn best […]

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Happy Online Romance Day!

At Dating Kinky, we’re all about romance (and kink!) online and off. I have been in an online romance. It ruined into a 4 1/2 year cohabitation, and we are still friends, so I know a bit about all this stuff. When I met met partner, he lived 2 hours away from me, so our […]

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