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The Needs Hierarchy

The Needs Hierarchy

So, in PE (Power Exchange) relationships, we all have needs. Knowing what those are and understanding how to get those met is critical. I've read a lot about how dominants should put their subs' needs first. I think this is backwards and wrong, and I'll explain why....

The Responsibility Of The Dominant

The Responsibility Of The Dominant

The dominant is responsible for one thing in their relationship: The entire relationship. Yup. The dominant is responsible for everything in their relationship. How they behave, the results they get, how their sub behaves... Whoa! Wait just one darned minute here. Am...

The Problem With “Women Don’t Want Sex As Much As Men”

The Problem With “Women Don’t Want Sex As Much As Men”

Someone said in a conversation I'm in: Those sort of atitudes, still alive in the 21st century, create a wall of misunderstanding and distrust that every man has to negotiate... <snipped> And every woman. Ever been in an argument, and had your partner tell you...

Women Don’t Want Sex As Much As Men

No, really. It's true. It's been mansplained to me. Here are some of things I read this morning in support of the title, and yes, they were serious about them: In general, men are the sluts (they do it for the sex); women are the whores (they do it for personal...

The Other Side Of Pussy Privilege

The Other Side Of Pussy Privilege

So, I wrote yesterday (I'm trying to write everyday for a while) about pussy privilege, and how I understand it, and the parts of my personal ethic that I have created as a result. Today, I'd like to discuss some of the things I did not say yesterday. The things that...

About My Privilege—Especially Pussy Privilege

About My Privilege—Especially Pussy Privilege

I have privilege. In many, many ways. I know this. Not all ways. Growing up, we were never rich. I never had the cool clothes. I was never part of an "in" crowd. I went to public schools, whatever was around. I didn't go to camp, or take part in educational extra...

I Violated Rules Of Consent, And I Liked It

I Violated Rules Of Consent, And I Liked It

Let me state for the record: I love consent. So much so that I don't do "forced." Ever. It's just WAY too hot for me for a partner to fully own their desires, at least to me. To have my sub say, "I want this seriously freaky thing, even though I feel like I...

No Regrets

No Regrets

If I have ONE rule in relationships—kinky relationships, PE relationships, vanilla relationships, any kind of relationships—it's 'No Regrets.' Now, I don't mean doing something, then afterwards having to slap the "no regrets" label on. I mean take every step in a...

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