I’m NOT telling you what to do…

I’m NOT telling you what to do…

What I write is not proclamations of the WON TWOO WAY, or even the statement that I think you must or should do something.

I write to inspire thought.

Even when that thought leads to disagreement, and you doing things I suggest you don’t for the best possible life.

Because my life and your life are probably radically different. And while often when I write what works for me, it will also work for MOST people, well, you’re not most people.

You’re you.

And I’m me.

Sometimes people ask me questions, and I answer. Then they get upset that I tell them that they’re not being very nice.

Humans have a right to handle things however they choose, even when it’s not very nice.

Hell, I’m often not very nice, on purpose.

I hate to do it by accident, though.

And I also love to spot the signs of someone being not-nice, unethical, shifty, dishonest, or whatever. So, when I know what that looks like, I share it.

So others can learn to recognize those signs as well.

Now, you may do those things. And you may even do some of those things with the best intention.

But now, at least, you know that some people (myself included) experience those thing as red flags.

Am I telling you to stop doing them?

Nope. For several reasons:

  1. I’m not your dominant. It’s not my right to tell you what and what not to do.
  2. I love when people do the things that help me recognize that they will be incompatible with me.
  3. I don’t believe in telling people what to do.

However, everyone is welcome to read what I write and learn from it and better yourself.

I am not telling anyone to do that.

I am encouraging everyone (and cheering you on), though.

smiles

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