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Behavior modification, that is.
It’s not like handcuffs or chains, where you do something once, and they are bound by your directive, until you free them.
It’s far more subtle.
Gossamer.
Like restraining someone with toilet paper.
One layer of toilet paper wrapped around their body is real enough to feel, to KNOW, but not enough to hold them.
However, once you’ve put in enough layers (reinforcement) in enough ways (places), their reality is constrained to what you desire.
Behavior modification is like that. It’s not one and done.
It’s not something that is set into place, then sticks forever.
It takes tending. Cultivating. Encouraging. More and more layers.
It’s like toilet paper bondage.