by Bettina | Mar 31, 2021 | Lifestyle Thoughts
Every once in a while, I like to have my little rant about the difference between an identity and an activity. Because no matter how many times this comes up, it seems like there are always people confused about it. I’m a dominant woman. I’ve always been comfortable...
by Bettina | Mar 28, 2021 | Blog, Lifestyle Thoughts
In her Service Basics presentation for Dating Kinky’s Life in Submission (March ’21 — https://datingkinky.com/learning/life-in-submission/ ), UnrulyNerdGirl made the point that as a service submissive, she preferred to call herself freelance, rather than single....
by Bettina | Mar 27, 2021 | Lifestyle Thoughts
Consensually. Actually, collaboratively is a better word. Because I work with my partners to recreate themselves as who they most want to be. And that usually requires that they learn to see the world differently. Perhaps it’s more possibilities, or different angles....
by Bettina | Mar 15, 2021 | Lifestyle Thoughts
I originally created this graphic after a conversation I had with a submissive, but I believe this is true for most people. After all, even the most in-charge, capable, leader-type people like to take a load off sometimes, and just relax. They like to know they can...
by Bettina | Mar 7, 2021 | Lifestyle Thoughts
There is something very sexy about rope. About being bound and restrained. Even as a dominant, I’ve enjoyed being bound by play partners and artistes. It’s like a corset to me. A feeling of an ongoing hug. It has nothing to do with power for me, and that’s one reason...
by Bettina | Mar 5, 2021 | Lifestyle Thoughts
I made this meme years ago based on something a friend said to me. I thought it was catchy, and it is. But it’s not really accurate. At least for me. Because “defiance” is not something I look for in my relationships. D/s or not. defiance 1.The act or an example of...
