What Are Your Kinky Questions? ASK THEM!

What Are Your Kinky Questions? ASK THEM!

What is kinky, anyway? What questions do you have about kink? OR what questions have you had about kink in the past when you were a brand-spanking new kinkster? OR what questions would you want a newbie to kink to ask you or an expert that you trust? (No need to say...
How Will I Know?

How Will I Know?

No, don’t “Just trust your feelings,” that’s a most excellent way to fuck everything up. But it’s a catchy tune, for sure. On yesterday’s writing, @Rima asked: My question is…how does one know if the shared goal is to...
Fighting Fair: Vocabulary

Fighting Fair: Vocabulary

I’ve noted before that ideas seem to gather around me in fascinating ways. A few days ago, I wrote about emotional vocabulary, and had several discussions on the topic over the week before, this past weekend, and a few new words and topics related to it caught...
You Get In Your Own Gawddam Way

You Get In Your Own Gawddam Way

This past weekend, I taught a communications class at the Submissive Safe Haven Symposium, and thanks to starting the class with a Q&A, we ventured into some territory and ideas that I’ve not really verbalized or taught before. And one was pretty...
Validation: A Human Need

Validation: A Human Need

Over this past weekend, as I was in Jacksonville to teach, a writing of mine popped back up for a spate of attention. The Needs Hierarchy Which, interestingly, I was going to talk about in my class that afternoon, and bring up in many classes I teach as an...

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