But they will assume it. Because of experience with so many others who say the same thing, then cause as much drama as possible.
It’s one of those things that is true MOST of the time in my experience.
Not all of the time.
That said, there are those who feel a need to say something in their profile about all that… drama stuff… for a lack of a better term, and feel frustrated that speaking out against that stuff actually paints them with the same brush.
So, if you are one of those people, perhaps there is a way of saying what you need to say with a different set of words:
I have a busy life and a lot demanding my attention. I will click best with people who understand that I prefer quality interactions that enrich both our lives…
Maybe.
Now, I’m not saying you should do this, or you must, or that these are ideal words or whatever. Your profile, your choice.
The way I see it is like this:
The person communicating is responsible for the communication.
If I want to say one thing, and find that others are taking it entirely wrong more often than not, I need to rethink how I’m saying it, even if their mistakes are based in erroneous assumptions.
That’s me and my view of the world. If you want to correct people’s assumptions about you, you can often do that through how you communicate with them.
Or… you can do exactly what you want, and let the assuming assholes show themselves out of your life.
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Thing Is… People DO Make Assumptions
Thing Is… People DO Make Assumptions
Last August I wrote a piece about how saying “I don’t do drama,” pretty much guarantees that people will assume you’re a primary source for it.
And a lot of people agreed.
They may be wrong, sure.
But they will assume it. Because of experience with so many others who say the same thing, then cause as much drama as possible.
It’s one of those things that is true MOST of the time in my experience.
Not all of the time.
That said, there are those who feel a need to say something in their profile about all that… drama stuff… for a lack of a better term, and feel frustrated that speaking out against that stuff actually paints them with the same brush.
So, if you are one of those people, perhaps there is a way of saying what you need to say with a different set of words:
Maybe.
Now, I’m not saying you should do this, or you must, or that these are ideal words or whatever. Your profile, your choice.
The way I see it is like this:
The person communicating is responsible for the communication.
If I want to say one thing, and find that others are taking it entirely wrong more often than not, I need to rethink how I’m saying it, even if their mistakes are based in erroneous assumptions.
That’s me and my view of the world. If you want to correct people’s assumptions about you, you can often do that through how you communicate with them.
Or… you can do exactly what you want, and let the assuming assholes show themselves out of your life.
*smiles*
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