PROOF Women are Smarter Than Men

The results have been published by James Flynn, a world-renowned expert in IQ testing, who believes the demands of the modern age are raising standards of intelligence.

He said: “In the last 100 years the IQ scores of both men and women have risen, but women’s have risen faster.

“This is a consequence of modernity. The complexity of the modern world is making our brains adapt and raising our IQ.” source

Except let’s look at what they don’t say.

They don’t say that the maximum difference is 1.5 points. With the average IQ of 100, that would, at best, make women 1.5% more intelligent.


They don’t mention that in five countries studied, one of the countries still had women trailing (by half a point).

They don’t say that James Flynn himself does not believe women are smarter than men.

In fact, he thinks that men and women are equal in intelligence and (as a result of experience) that women are better test-takers and focus better in test-taking situations, and men focus better in other areas.

They don’t mention that you can get wider margins by comparing races or people with different scoio-economic backgrounds (not just about money, but also about attitudes towards education) than you can by comparing gender.

They don’t mention that while IQ is a correlation to success, it is not a strong one, and your parent’s socioeconomic status + your IQ only counts for 14% of your potential future outcome.

So, yeah. There’s proof women are “smarter” than men, if an IQ test is the proof you need. She’s about $1.50 smarter, if you’re the man holding the $100 bill.


Now you can buy yourself a cola.

Here’s the thing:

I started this research because someone in my Women In Charge group on Facebook posted a thank you for adding them into the group and that they believe in Female Led Relationships (FLRs) because, “women are smarter.”

I said:

Please refrain from any sort of sexist language that would be unacceptable if turned around.
The group is not about superiority, but a chosen way of life.
I know many amazing male dominants, and women I would not put in charge of a goldfish.

The other thing to keep in mind that there is a wider range of difference comparing men to men than comparing the highest scored man (210) to the highest scored woman (228).

Also, MORE men score higher than women. Men overall have more variability in their scores, generally hitting higher highs and lower lows.

So, how about instead of worrying about who is smarter, based on a standardized scale and the plumbing they are born with, we interact as individuals?

On Gender Inclusive Language: A Request For Your Emotional Labor

On Gender Inclusive Language

CW: trans and potentially transphobic language in use.

I teach a class on anal play. It’s a great class, full of fun and laughter, and it’s a gender inclusive class, because every gender has a butthole.

But, not every body has exactly the same butthole pieces-parts.

Because some bodies have p-spots, and some have g-spots.

And these differences are important when discussing pleasure-giving to people with chocolate starfish.

Because while spear-fishing for poop sharks can be insanely good sexy times for all, the whats, wheres and hows differ on the bodies and their sexual maps.

This weekend, I’m traveling to Gettysburg, PA to Naughty Noel, and I’m presenting that class, and I’m working on The Big Book of Ass (which I’m WAYYYYY behind on, but that may be a good thing, as this writing could help make it better and more inclusive), and I want to make sure that I’m being as clear and as gender inclusive as possible.

My next book…

Which brings us to the reason for this post.

This morning, I received feedback on a recent class I gave, and the quote was:

“I appreciated the attempt to be inclusive of all gender ID’s & sexualities, but it wasn’t entirely effective. For ex: ‘people w/ prostrates’ instead of ‘male bodied people’ etc. The language was a bit bothering at times.”

First, I’d like to say “THANK YOU” to the anonymous person who wrote that, as it gives me a new place to start learning from.

I don’t want to be bothering (although I’m not sure I can be 100% not-bothering to everyone).

I do want to be inclusive, and I do want to be clear.

So, I’m asking for feedback.

I had been lead to believe (several years ago) that when speaking of specifically sexual characteristics, male-bodied and female-bodied was OK.

I read that comment, and went searching the ‘net, and I now know that those terms are considered transphobic and cissexist.

Which I don’t want to be, and don’t feel that I am.

What I am is clueless, and not from lack of trying.

Funny this should happen now, after writing just yesterday on occhiolism, and how I know very little (next to nothing) about being non-cis.

The universe has a way of driving it’s point home, I find.

So, I’m looking for ways to speak specifically about biologically sexual/physical differences in bodies and be gender inclusive.

  • People with prostates (suggested in the feedback) or Gräfenberg spots.
  • People with p-spots or g-spots.
  • P-spot havers or g-spot havers.

Of course, the same for penis-, testicle-, vagina- or clitoris-havers.

What else is right and clear? What else puts trans- or nonbinary-folk at ease and educates?

Maybe that’s all.

If so, that will have to be enough.

As a writer/educator, I’m asking so that I can lead by example when I present, and when I share on FetLife and other sites.