This is the last of this particular series… although not the last of my daily writings.
The first two are here:
This one is short and sweet, since I’ve had a jam-packed weekend, and there’s really not much to it… except and example showing why many women don’t reply to responses to their Craigslist ads (or personal dating site ads, or FetLife random messages) when they are not interested, and even more, why women don’t say why (which I get asked 4 out of 5 times when I simply reply with, “No, thanks.”
In my ad, this is the last line:
If you think you fit this bill, reach out. Send me a note. Tell me what interested you about my ad, and include a face photo.
So, I get this reply, with a face photo:
I would like to date you I am in Raleigh
Aside from the grammar, the lack of immediate attraction to the photo, and the brevity in response to a very detailed post, there is no ‘what interested him.’
And frankly, to me, it read as incredibly entitled. I want to date you. I’m in Raleigh. Great! Ignore all of the other criteria I listed, because you being in Raleigh is all I really need to know… Oh, and that you would actually date me, unlike EVERYONE else in the area, right?
My reply was (and I sent this to quite a few men:
Thank you for the offer.
I’m looking for someone who can follow my directions and enjoy it.
Best of luck to you in fulfilling your fantasies!
Two others wrote back, a bit disappointed and trying to change my mind or figure out what they forgot (out of only two things? really?). This guy stepped it up a notch.
next time just dont answer and keep ass hole remarks to youself. If you were special as you think you are you would not be posting on CL
So, I’m an asshole for turning him down, and giving him a reason.
And, on top of that, he has to tell me that I’m not special, because I’m posting an ad on a site he trolls for ads… and um, that he responded to…
Oh! The irony!