Writing Prompt: Pick A Photo

Nookie Playing Dress Up

My photo:

Nookie Playing Dress Up

This photo represents a deep bond in my relationship with my Pet that we’ve shared from day 1: A sense of adventure and playfulness.

We lived two hours apart when we met (in person), and saw each other every couple of weeks. In between, we shared ideas and images that we loved, discussed them, and sometimes made them our own.

This image was the result of one of those images, as was the resulting scene with lots of leather and my dildo collection…

But it’s not just recreating that is so special to me.

It’s that we work together so well to pull these things off.

He is an amazing cheerleader and enthusiastic (and enamored) photographer. A joyful bottom. A skilled lover.

EVERY time we do this, we have knocked it out of the park, and explored yet another way of expressing our sexuality, while growing in what we know about each other, what we like, and fun new kinks.

Looking over my collection of photos, I can see at least 10 more images that happened this way as well. It’s part of us, and threads through much of what we do and how we love.

The Prompt

Pick a photo you have posted for the public, or link to one. Write about what it means to you, the feelings it evokes, anything.

Feel free to write in the comments or in your own journal and link here (so others can read it), or just think on it or write on it and keep it to yourself, if you prefer.

Write a sentence. Or a paragraph. Or an essay. Or whatever this is to you. Talk it out. Make it yours, if it’s not.

Writing Prompt: Avoid False Friendship At All Costs

Avoid False Friends

“Avoid false friendship at all costs.”

I agree.

Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.

Stop and think about that for a few moments.

The people we surround ourselves with help us sort right from wrong, ethical from unethical, and desirable from undesirable.

So, surrounding ourselves with people who don’t like us (but pretend to) is also exposing ourselves to people who are duplicitous as a matter of course.

We are also exposing ourselves to a normal that may include other thought patterns beyond base deception.

So, yeah, avoid false friends.

But let’s take it a step beyond.

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Writing Prompt: Feminism In Today’s World—OR—Why “Feminism” As A Word Is Tainted, In My Opinion

Feminism: Graffiti on a wall in Jamaica shows a woman chasing a man with a club.

A friend sent me this video a few days back:

It’s a good one. Eliza VanCort obviously knows her shit, and as a communication geek, I picked up a few ways of thinking and speaking about communication that I didn’t have before.

Some of the video made me cringe, though.

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Writing Prompt: The Best Revenge Is Not To Be Like That

An old black and white image with the words, "Revenge of the Virgins"

Last week, was “If Someone Shows You Who They Are, Believe Them”, and encourages letting people go if they walk away, and not putting on rose colored glasses.

Today’s prompt is mean to be the counterbalance to that point.

On facebook the other day, someone posted this question:

Would you accept a friend back who has walked away from you in your times of difficulty?

Of all the replies, mine was the only one that said, “Yes.” In fact, I said:

” Yes. Absolutely.

Everyone has a right to make choices for themselves.

And I like them for a reason. If I only liked them for their help and support, then I’m not much of a friend, am I?”

I was not surprised that I was the only one, though.

That question seems like there is only one right answer, and it’s an easy one.

But I don’t think it’s easy or simple. It’s not even as simple as what I wrote. I mean, it’s true. I do believe that I am friends with people for more than what they can do for me. I do believe that people need to make their own choices, and the choices are valid whether I agree with them or not.

And…

And…

And, here is the kicker: There are times I have had to walk away from someone in their times of difficulty. More than once.

  • Because I did not have the strength.
  • Because I did not have the heart.
  • Because I believed helping them through would do more damage in the long-term than their learning to stand on their own.
  • Because I was just tired.

In Meditations, Marcus Aurelius tells himself to “Avoid false friendship at all costs.”

I agree with this. I make it a point in my life.

And I also believe that to truly put this into perspective, I also feel that it’s important to look inward, and ask “When have I been false to my friends?”

He also suggests in Book Six, if you are sparring with someone and they hurt you, don’t yell at them or whine or hold it against them — just make a mental note about it and act accordingly in the future.

This rings true to me. I can still love them for the laughter and joy they bring to my life, knowing I can’t rely on them to bail me out of jail (if it comes to that). Because not all friends are (or can be) bail-out-of-jail or sitting-next-to-me-in-jail-giggling friends, and THAT’S OK!

And finally, in this particular vein, Marcus says this:

“What injures the hive, injures the bee. The best revenge is not to be like that.”

Meaning: When you hurt others, you hurt the group and you hurt yourself.

The Prompt

  • How many times have you turned friends down for help? Have you held similar situations against others, when you were the one in need?
  • When have you been a false friend and still accepted back?
  • When have you had to walk away?
  • How do you choose to “not be like that?”

Feel free to write in the comments or in your own journal and link here (so others can read it), or just think on it or write on it and keep it to yourself, if you prefer.

Write a sentence. Or a paragraph. Or an essay. Or whatever this is to you. Talk it out. Make it yours.

*smiles*

So, the image doesn’t really have anything to do with this blog post, but it came up when I searched for “revenge,” and I was too tickled to resist using it…

Writing Prompt: If Someone Shows You Who They Are, Believe Them

A picture of Tyler Perry as Madea, with the words overlaid: Let Them Go!

I’ve written recently about intuition, and how to strengthen it, and since that posted, I’ve had discussion with quite a few people whose problem was not intuition.

It was ignoring the information that was just given to them. Stated. Shown.

I think we’ve all done it.

Probably more than once, until we learn the lesson.

But once we learn the lesson, we know, right? It’s clear. Someone says something about themselves, we believe them now.

But what if they’re lying?

Well, then do you want a relationship with a liar?

But what if they’re wrong?

Well, that’s what they believe about themselves, and they are going to try to live up to that (or down to it). What gives you the right to change them? What makes you think you CAN, when their own beliefs will get in the way?

Tyler Perry’s advice on this topic is spot-on, and it pops up in my FB feed every year or so.

The Prompt

  • When have you ignored what someone told you about themselves and regretted it?
  • Have you ever ignored what someone told you about themselves and been glad you did?
  • What have you told people about yourself that they ignored, then were surprised or angry when it proved to be true?

Feel free to write in the comments or in your own journal and link here (so others can read it), or just think on it or write on it and keep it to yourself, if you prefer.

Write a sentence. Or a paragraph. Or an essay. Or whatever this is to you. Talk it out. Make it yours.

Writing Prompt: What Do You Pursue And Why?

What Do You Pursue?

I haven’t posted a writing prompt in a while, but the past few months have kept throwing things into my path, suggesting that not only do I need to, but I need to start a new project.

You see, I got a new planner for Christmas from my Pet, and I’d just started looking into Bullet Journaling (for those interested, here and here are two great articles about it). I wanted to not only organize myself better, but have a place for my thoughts.

Since then, I’ve seen a ton of journals pre-started for you with writing prompts on a particular topic: romance, fitness, creativity, writing… and each time, I’ve thought, “Oh! Wouldn’t a kink journal be cool?”

And that thought flitted through my brain and out again, like so many.

Then, I came upon some questions that really touched me, related to self-reliance, and I shared them with a few friends. EVERY time, the conversation turned to kink journaling, and writing prompts for kinksters.

So, here I am. Committing to writing more kinky writing prompts. LOL!

The Prompt

Is there anything in kink that people have told you is a “must-do,” “must-learn,” or “must-think” that really doesn’t resonate with you, but that you have continued to try or to consider, simply because others say it is necessary?

At what point do we determine our kinky lives for ourselves, rather than following the “common wisdom”?

Feel free to write in the comments or in your own journal and link here (so others can read it), or just think on it or write on it and keep it to yourself, if you prefer.

Write a sentence. Or a paragraph. Or an essay. Or whatever this is to you. Talk it out. Make it yours.

Writing Prompt: Is Trust Earned? Or Is it Given?

Trust is Earned

There is no right answer that applies to everyone, I think.

Every answer depends on how you see trust.

trust

firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.

That’s a dictionary definition. I’ve also read that trust is as simple as the ability to predict another’s behavior. Or just faith that a person will not harm you, or is not capable of crossing certain boundaries. Continue reading “Writing Prompt: Is Trust Earned? Or Is it Given?”