On April 30, 2021, our very own Miss Nookie presented the topic ‘Cuckolding: A Modern Look at an Ancient Fetish’ for Dating Kinky. The original presentation was free to all who joined us live, and was recorded for Dating Kinky’s PLUS members to access through the Dating Kinky Library (over 400 videos and 550 hours of content!).
Here is a clip from that two hour (!!) show, where Nookie talked about cuckolding as a concept, shared her experiences of cuckolding over the seven years (at the time) she’d been practicing, and answered questions from attendees about the lifestyle.
Transcription:
What type of person or personality should not get involved in cuckolding? Like jealousy, etc?
So as I was putting up the first few lessons of the cuckolding class today in the PLUS Member area, one of the things that was talking about is, “How do I get my partner to cuckold me?”
And usually, the way that works is some guy comes in and tries to make the woman have sex in the
ways that this guy finds hot, and I’m like, “That is exactly the opposite of cuckolding.”
Anybody who feels a need to control a woman’s sexuality, instead of embracing and worshipping at her sexuality, however, she indulges it should not be a cuckold.
Cuckold and devotional sex.
Yes, devotional sex is an excellent way of describing it.
I’ve looked into that. It’s really, really fun.
MistressK I love you, too.
“You mentioned that your marital relationship status does not make someone a cuckold or cuckolddress. IE a single man can be a cuckold and an unmarried couples’ expression of cuckolding is just as valid as a married couple’s. Could you expound on the reasons for this please?”
Yes, Scarlet.
Because if you say that, “You have to be married in order to be a cuckold couple, then you have to have
a cuckold in order to be a cuckoldress.
You have to have a submissive in order to be a dominant.
You have to have a dominant in order to be a submissive, right?
Like there’s all these little “You have to be this tall to ride the ride” bullshit.
And and I understand that we’re told these things from the beginning, right?
But I look at it a different way.
To me, cuckolding, whether you’re doing it as an entire lifestyle, as a core identity, or even as a scene that you set up.
Like a friend of mine just went to New York City and he had a cuckolding scene set up for him with a couple of professionals.
Now, to me, that’s not the same, but he got to feel that experience in a way that I would never deny him being a cuckold just because he didn’t do it the way I would do it. Right?
To me, it seems like if I were being judgey as fuck, I’d say, “Gosh, that just really seems like live porn.”
But I don’t think that’s fair because he’s a cuckold, these are his fantasies, and because he’s not attached right now.
He found a healthy way to experience that, right?
So it’s the mindset.
He felt the angst of being denied and watching the woman, in this case, make pleasure with somebody else that wasn’t him.
So yeah, that’s that’s my thought on the subject.
It’s a mindset.
What are YOUR thoughts?
Do you agree with my answers? Or do you have a different opinion?
What questions do YOU have about cuckolding?
