Happiness = Complacency = Dead Relationship?

Happiness = Complacency = Dead Relationship?

I read this article the other day:

Why It Pays To Be Grumpy And Bad Tempered

One of the quotes I found interesting was:

““Happiness functions like a shorthand signal that we’re safe and it’s not necessary to pay too much attention to the environment. Those in a continuous happy haze may miss important cues. Instead, they may be over-reliant on existing knowledge – leaving them prone to serious errors of judgement.”

In another post a while back (damn this crappy search!), an amazing comment came up about how the hardest thing we do in relationships is to continue SEEING each other for who we are, instead of collecting a mass of assumptions and treating our partners as avatars in our own minds.

And I agree with that.

And I’ve seen first-hand how happiness can blind a person.

And not in the ‘Imma-ignore-red-flags” way, but in the, “I’m happy, so everything must be fine” way, or the “I’m happy, so problems in the relationship are your problems” kind of way.

Happiness signals our brains that we’re safe. That everything is cool. That we’ve nothing to worry about.

And so, we don’t. And the details slip by.

  • We don’t worry about the birthday we missed.
  • We don’t worry about a regular date night.
  • We don’t worry that we are not as loving and romantic as we used to be.

Because, well, we’re happy.

Until we’re not.

More Posts

I love when you beg.

Let me be clear. I have ZERO interest in begging or wheedling or you trying to convince me of something I’ve already said “No” to.

Fake it until you make it…

I feel like a lot of people either misunderstand or misrepresent what that means. Because there are things you can’t (or shouldn’t) fake: •Lifestyle •Promises

Cuddle Up Day, Jan 6

I know that many of us are missing our cuddles with our favorite humans right now. I’m one of the lucky ones. My partner and

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

An Entitled Guy

I know this guy. Not THIS guy, but this waves hands all around guy. Imagine this, if you will. You’re out with your friends for

Read More »
X