On April 6, 2022, Nookie presented the topic FemDoms: How do you feed your RAWR? for Dating Kinky and the FLR, FemDom & Woman in Charge Event (coming up June 10-12). The original presentation was free to all who joined us live, and was recorded for Dating Kinky’s PLUS members to access through the Dating Kinky Library (over 400 videos and 550 hours of content!), and for ticket holders to the June event.

Here is a clip from that 90-minute show, where she talks about how the way we dress can affect our headspace in and out of the scene.

TRANSCRIPT

Also to go along with music: Dressing the part.

Now, to be clear, I like to joke that if I cannot dominate somebody in fuzzy unicorn pajamas, then I’m not much of a dominant.

That said, there is something incredibly powerful in the costume.

I’d like to I’d like to see a show of emojis here.

How many of you dress for very different experiences?

Maybe you put your suit on when you want to impress, or when you’re needing to feel high-powered. Or maybe you put on that super tight latex, when you want to feel like sexy as fuck and in charge.

Yeah, so a lot of you absolutely, because we know the inherent value of dressing.

We tell ourselves constantly, you know, “Oh, that’s so superficial, it’s just the surface,” but as much as that’s true, it also affects who we are and how we feel to dress a certain way and to do it with intention.

So put on some music and choose to dress the part and that includes things like grooming or makeup, right?

So maybe you’re going to go full face. You’re going to put it on, you know, full bright, red lipstick, and dark cold around your eyes.

Maybe, you’re just going to slick your hair back, maybe you’re going to shave to make sure that, you know, you’re completely smooth.

Which for those of you who like to do oral, I highly recommend shaving your face (if you are not full beard) because rug burn is a serious thing. Y’all, like serious thing, just throwing that
out there!

But dressing the part and then adding the grooming, or the makeup or the hairstyles or the accessories to add to that.

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What are your thoughts?

Does dressing a a particular way change your mindset?

Do you have specific go-to outfits that make you feel more or less dominant? Or submissive? What about grooming?