“Perfection is the willingness to be imperfect.”

“Perfection is the willingness to be imperfect.”

Imagine this:

There you are at an event, trying to be all cool and seem perfect.

Across the room or the internet group of the online social is a great match for you.

And THEY are also putting on the perfection face.

And so while you both have an interest, neither of you ever makes the move because you don’t seem compatible.

You are both too perfect-seeming for each other. Or the flaws that you might really connect on just never come to light. Your personalities are dimmed by the effort of holding it all in—not letting that imperfection show.

And so, you lose out.

Or, imagine this scenario (I’ve seen this happen more than once):

You DO meet. Because your interest outweighs potential rejection.

And you both work hard to maintain as much of your perfection as possible, because you REALLY like each other. Like really, really.

And so, you make a go of it.

Dating, loving, maybe getting married, even.

And all the while, secretly terrified that the other person will discover THE REAL YOU.

And they are feeling the same.

And so, when you’re wrong, you fight, because you don’t want to appear wrong or flawed.

And when you make a mistake, you try to cover it up, or worse, find ways to blame your partner, to hide your fear.

And, eventually, the weight of your fears and insecurities and hurts breaks you both. And breaks your relationship.

And you part.

Not because you would not have been amazing for each other.

But because you never let each other see your imperfections, and so you never REALLY connected.

Lao Tzu said:

“Perfection is the willingness to be imperfect.”

I agree.

What are your thoughts?

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