“Every relationship will get boring…” FUCK THAT!

“Every relationship will get boring…” FUCK THAT!

Image with the text: "Every relationship will get "boring" after you've been together for years, if you let it. Love isn't a feeling, it's a commitment; to love every day, physically and emotionally. It's difficult, it's not always laughs, smiles and fun. People tend to quit when it stops being fun, and they go look for someone else. "Oh the spark is gone." No, that's not how it works. You want somebody to never give up on you, and love you unconditionally? Do the same. Be the change. This isn't Hollywood, this isn't the movies. That shit isn't real. Love someone when you don't want to. When they are being a fucking asshole. When they're being hard to love. That's the realest shit there is."
I saw this on Facebook this morning, and my response to it was strong enough that I wanted to write about it today, rather than whatever I have on my calendar (that’ll just get pushed off to the end of September or so).

Anyway, this image.

I disagree.

Love IS a feeling. It’s created of chemicals being released in our bodies as a results of certain behaviors, looks, and chemistry, and how we respond to those.

Commitment is commitment.

To suggest that love = commitment suggests that commitment = love, and I think we all know that is a false equivalency.

Love is just love. You can have love. You can have commitment. You can have both or neither. They are not the same.

To me, commitment within love is not just a commitment to love, it’s a commitment to SHOW love and live it.

That means it is a commitment to each other to be more than boring. To do more than take each other for granted. To love hard enough to find ways to surprise and delight each other, no matter how many years you have.

To create those feelings of love for each other, and to look for ways to feel that love and excitement with your partner.

Memes like this make it sound like boredom in life is inevitable and that we should all be satisfied.


Yes, be the change.

Don’t settle.

Drag your loved one along on a romantic love adventure that lasts your lifetime together. Inspire love. Create passion. Choose adventure.

Or be boring. That’s also a valid choice. But it’s a choice you can make. Not an unalterable fate.

Take love slowly, and dive in deep, or fall in love quickly and skinny dip in the warm shallow waters.

Be with a dozen (or a thousand) different partners in succession or at the same time, or commit to one (or a half dozen) for a lifetime.

But DO NOT think love MUST become boring, and that you have to accept it if/when it does.

You should not be shamed for your choices in love, or feel like you have to live by arbitrary standards set by a fucking meme on the internet. That’s just fucked up.

It’s good to be back home and rested from my travels. I’ll tell you, spending time in other countries with different languages, sights, history and people—Oh! the people!—is an amazing way to inspire thought and introspection, not to mention (for me) lights a fire under my ass so I can do SO MUCH MORE of that.

Note: Found a spot where the original meme words were credited to Jess McCullers

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