Single’s Notes

Congratulations on doing this for yourself! I started butt play on my own, and I’ll be honest…

While I really learned to enjoy it so much more when sharing it, my best experiences for a long time were those when I explored my own body.

Heck, given the right mood, I’ll still do it, and it feels great! I’ve learned a lot about myself and what my body reacts to that way, and I’ve been able to pass that information on to my partners, so they can pleasure me better, which boosts their confidence when they don’t have much experience.

Thing is, you know how to touch yourself. You know how much is too much, and when you need a break.

And you always have you. You’re not going anywhere, so you can practice pleasuring yourself whenever you have a bit of free time, without worrying about scheduling and such.

I’m thrilled that you’ve chosen my program to guide you on this exploration. Really. Tickled pink!

HUZZAH! You’ve got this!

So, what do you, as a by-yourself-butt-practicing-this-for-and-with-you need to know?

Relax

No matter what’s coming through the rear entrance, it helps to be relaxed. If you’re not 100% on-board with anal penetration, for the love of all that’s glitter and sparkly in the world, don’t do it.

The trauma isn’t worth it. Not to be cool. Not to please someone. Not for any reason. If you don’t want it, just don’t.

Now, this series and these lessons, especially the first step, is ALL about getting you relaxed, and helping you discover the pleasure that anal can bring.

The Experience

You may have toyed with anal in the past, either alone or with a friend. That’s cool. I’m all for that!

However, in following these lessons, I have a favor to ask of you.

Please do each exercise as written (and guided), no matter how rudimentary it may seem to you. Please give it your full attention.

There is a method to my madness. grins

In fact, I would suggest that even many who have experience in all of this butt stuff could learn a few things from taking it easy and slowly, and really focusing on their asshole.

LOL! Yeah, that sounds kind of weird.

Just trust me on this one.

Too Much Lube Is Never Enough!

Well, maybe that’s an exaggeration. But (butt!) lube is vitally important. You really, really want it nice and slickery back there.

I’m going to assume that you’ve read the lessons on Basic Safety, because, well, you want to do this right, which is why you’ve bought this guide.

If you haven’t read it, please do.

Now.

I’ll wait.

Ok. So when I mention that the anus and such has thinner skin, is easier to damage and blah, blah, blah? Well, that’s why lube is so important.

It cuts down on drag, which means less potential for chafing and tearing. Which is safer, and frankly, just feels better.

Trust me on this.

So, add lube. As much as you want, as much as you need.

If you’re worried about making a mess, put down a towel, or a disposable puppy pad to catch the drips. Or, get a water-soluble lube that will come out easily in the wash.

Don’t Use The Force!

The whole point of the first few lessons is relaxation and opening up the anal area to pleasure.

That means, I only want you to use the lightest pressure. Let your finger slip in when it feels right, and if you’re in and the sphincter tightens, let your finger slip back out again without resistance.

It’s about building trust. Yes, even with yourself.

You want as much pleasure and as little trauma from your asshole as possible, and that means following your body’s signals.

Be patient. You will feel your ass open slightly and “invite you in.”

If it doesn’t happen the first time you practice, don’t fret. Simply visualize, while staying on the outside of your rectum. The next time you practice, consider taking a warm, relaxing bath before starting, to ease tension.

It may seem strange to have something go in “that way” if you are new to this. Just remember, you take poops MUCH bigger than your finger everyday. You got this!

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Don’t Expect To “Get Off”

This class is not about getting off. Especially not these lessons.

Not saying that you won’t get to get off. After all, this is all about pleasure.

That said, a big part of pleasure that many miss out on is the pleasure of sensation with or without orgasm and ejaculation.

So, to go along with the experience, please don’t try to get off. At least the first time you do each step.

Just do the step. Relax as asked. Think for a moment about your experience.

Then, by all means, if you’re hot and bothered, get off!

You can get off with your usual thoughts, or get off using what you’ve learned in this program. I’m fine with either. Hell, I’ll count it a win if you get off using this program as inspiration!

Positioning

The biggest challenge in self-play in the back door region is all about angles and flexibility.

Depending on your size and bendiness, getting a full finger inside yourself may be easy or nigh-on impossible. If you need just a little more reach, try sitting up, instead of laying back.

This And The Couple’s Section

Sure, you’re welcome to read them both. There will be a lot of repeated stuff, catering to whether I’m speaking to one or “both” of you.

You’ve been warned.

Let’s Discuss!

Singles, what questions do you have related to trying this out for yourself?