Power Exchange & Ass Play

Now, for power exchange…

A lot of people see anal as kinky. Therefore, it must be BDSM or power exchange or whatever.

I don’t see it that way. To me, there’s nothing inherently kinky about it, or specifically power-focused, or anything like that.

But there can be. And I can play that up.

For example, many people use the terms Top and Bottom not for the act itself, but also for the mental role.

They see Giver as the aggressor, the fucker, the dominant one, and the Receiver as the passive, the fuckee and the submissive one.

If that’s your thing, go with it. It’s not mine. I can give or take and still be in charge. Although I sometimes WANT to take and aggress and fuck, all at the same time, and I will play that up and use it for the fantasy.

However you want to play the power struggle, do it. Enjoy it.

Just realize that it need not be that way. Don’t lock yourself into one way of thinking for you, or for judging others.

A Small Taste of Power

There are a few things you can do to shift and play with the balance of power in an anal scene:

• Make your bottom ask for you to fuck them.
• Make them tell you they want your dick/fingers/whatever in their ass.
• Pull hair (get consent for this and everything) when fucking doggy style.
• Play with your toy or dick on your receiver’s ass. Slap it, Tease it. Put it in just a bit, then pull out and make them wait.
• If you’re the receiver running the show, command it. Give your giver step-by-step directions, “Now, fuck me. harder! Yes, just like that. I want you to give me everything I want. Oh, yesss, that’s a good fill in the blank.”