“How do you gain respect from those who are courting your partner? Kinda done being treated like a speed bump on the way to my spouse.
Asking an outside party because I am done bugging him about it.
You don’t worry about it. They will or won’t, eventually. Although how they see your partner treat you matters.
It’s up to your partner to determine whether they are OK with people who don’t respect you being in their life.
And how your partner treats you.