All About Strapping On

So, you’re going to strap on. Awesome!

So exciting!

I cover this pretty extensively in The Bog Book of Ass, and I’m going to offer you a few tips here.

Harness

First, you’re gonna want a good harness. I have a few, and I’ll recommend a couple in the Recommendations for you.

Primarily, it’s about fit and comfort.

For convenience, I enjoy a panty harness, as long as it fits snugly, and holds the toy in place. Of course, this will be better for those without flesh dicks or with smaller flesh dicks.

For stability and a custom fit, a strapped harness is the way to go. Choosing one with a double strap between he legs will accommodate any flesh bits between the legs, or offer manual or play access to genitals.

The Dick

Choosing a dick is a matter of practicality (use on your receiver) and preference (color, shape, etc).

The main key will be to have a base that flares and is held into your harness.

Whether you are used to a flesh dick or not, your strapped-on dick will not have nerve endings.

And that means that you will need to pay attention to your partner’s reactions, movements, and ask them what they are feeling, so that you don’t get too rough. It’s a tender spot back there, especially for beginners.

Don’t stop communicating with your partner.

Sure, it can seem pretty unsexy to hear, “Slow down for a moment,” or “Could you push forward just a bit, to see if I can take you deeper,” or to ask, “How does it feel when I do this?”

Butt, you know what? (Had to do it, sorry, sorry!)

Once you get this right, you will have plenty of time to do raunchy, sexy, rough butt fuckery in the future. It’s worth the extra time right now.

The Thrust

When you’re using a dildo in a harness it’s not anything like the parts you were issued at birth, it’s not just in and out. It’s a thrust with the hips.

Just take a look at some good porn and watch how their hips drive the fucking, rather than just sliding in and out.

And if you are doing it right for very long, you’ll get uncomfortable and sore, and you’ll probably feel it the next day.

That’s OK.

If you’re not used to fucking, you may find that the motions are a bit…taxing. LOL!

You may discover you have muscles you never knew about, and they will probably start hurting during, and will certainly hurt after.

So, to alleviate this, have the bottom do some of the work.

And, consider the bonus lesson on strengthening your fuck muscles. It’s a series of moves designed to help increase your thrusting power and stamina.

It takes time to learn everything. And maybe your partner is willing to massage your glutes as thanks for such an amazing experience!

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The Good News Is…

Even those with strap-ons and non-flesh dicks soon do learn to judge how we are moving inside another, and it’s almost as if we can feel through the harness and dick what’s happening over time.

And yes, it is pleasurable.

For the first few (many) times, though, be as careful as you can, and communicate, communicate, communicate (and encourage your partner to do so as well!).