Recommendations

In each lesson, I’ll make recommendations on products that may make your anal play and exploration more pleasurable.

The lubricants from lesson one are also applicable here (and for all lessons).

For your dildo choices, I’ve collected a few that I personally recommend as good options. These are not, obviously, your ONLY choices, just a few that I’m offering to help you get started with toys that fit the needs of the butt.

Vixen Mustang

This has been a favorite of ours for basic butt play, strap-on play, and more. It’s a good size, not too big or too small, and the head is pronounced, which stimulates p-spots and g-spots nicely.

We actually have two of these in different colors.

The harder core and softer external silicone give a very natural feel to this dick.

https://vixen-creations.myshopify.com/collections/vixskin/products/mustang?variant=1662059716

Square Peg

As noted with the buttplug recommendations, Square Peg just makes quality. Their dicks are no exception, and they have a wide variety for handheld, suction or harness use.

https://www.squarepegtoys.com/shop/category/realistic/

NoFrillDo

Perfectly functional harness dildo made of silicone for those on a budget.

https://www.funkittoys.com/product-page/nofrilldo-random-color

Silicone Love Rider Hipster Panty Harness

A super-accessible panty harness set for up about a 44” hip size. The “probe” included is a great shape for stimulating the prostate or g-spot. The ring is large enough to fit slightly larger dildos, including the Mustang, above.

Easily washable, comfortable, and long-lasting.

https://www.adamevevod.com/s/sex-toys/p/387334/california-exotic/silicone-love-rider-hipster-panty-harness

Two-Strap Dildo Harness

A good, basic leather harness that will work for men and women (the two straps will go around dangly bits, if they are present) and includes rings for various sizes of dildos.

https://www.extremerestraints.com/two-strap-dildo-harness.html#additional-info

InJoyUs—Strapless Insertable Dildo

I have long desired a truly strapless experience for play with dildos, and I’ve tried a few options. Unfortunately, all were disappointing.

They were too hard and pokey (I guess that’s why they thought they needed to maintain the “shape”), they were oddly shaped, or the ‘inner bits’ were just…not shaped right.

Some were good enough for use on women, but failed miserably when engaged with the much stronger muscles of the anus, which is my primary interest.

I kept up hope, but I admit that my optimism was fading.

Then, while I was researching this book, someone mentioned the InJoyUs. I went to check it out, of course, even though I was deeply skeptical. After all, I’d read glowing reviews of all the others I’ve tried, and NONE of them really worked like anyone said.

I was thinking, “Maybe I’m the weirdo, here,” not for the first time.

But the InJoyUs LOOKED different right off the bat. Something about it seemed better-thought-out. A small flame of hope sprung up, and I sent an email.

“Something, something, blah, blah, blah. InJoyUs was recommended, and I’d love to review it for inclusion in my book, if it works. More yadda yadda…”

And so, not long after, I got my review box.

Now, John at New Love Creations had already mentioned that he’d gotten a bit of flack for his packaging, and when I opened it up, I could see why. It’s certainly not what I would expect for a product of the price and caliber I was expecting, and could use an update for sure.

However, I wasn’t going to be sticking packaging in my or my partner’s butt, so it was easy to open it up and look at the product itself.

Because I’d talked some with John about how he’d designed, tested and engineered this thing, I was prepared for it to feel solid. And it does. I was almost concerned with HOW solid it felt, like the weight might be detrimental.

It was not at all. More on that in a bit.

I got the InJoyUs in my package, along with the Lily and Lela dildos. Two very different sizes/shapes.

All are made from pure platinum grade silicone, which is pretty much a must for me these days. It’s body-safe, odorless, hypoallergenic, and super easy to clean. Just pop those babies in the top rack of the dishwasher, or clean with bleach.

The InJoyUs has a stabilizer inside it (it’s not visible, nor can it be felt) of a super-strong metal, to maintain shape and erection angle, which I really like.

But NONE of that mattered if it didn’t feel good and stay in.

And it took a couple of days for me to make the scene happen, and I was chomping at the bit to try it out.

A set of detailed instructions came with the toys, which I looked over, and promptly ignored.

LOL!

Seriously, though, while I believe the instructions are needed, and they are well-done, I figured I had this.

After all, one of the reasons I want a strapless solution is to make this sort of play more spontaneous and less fussy. If I can’t just pop it in and go, then it won’t really add value to my life.

So, I chose to wing it, and wing it I did.

Well, I did realize that Step 1 was critical after popping the internal portion, and feeling an urgent need to pee.

So, that taken care of (and lesson learned), it was back to play.

Without going into graphic details, the results were overwhelmingly positive for butt play with my male partner.

• InJoyUs was easy to insert.
• It felt both solid and secure in place.
• We played with the Lily to start, and it has a nice extra clitoral stimulation pad.
• Both my g-spot and clitoris were happily stimulated.
• It stayed in, and felt good—I orgasmed more than a few times.

Definitely overwhelmingly positive.

There were a few hiccups:

• It takes some time, I think, to get used to the angle and use. This was our first time, and we tried cowgirl, missionary (plus variations) and lotus positions. Pretty basic, and successful, although learning the angle of thrust was a thing. Fun to learn, though!
• When I orgasm hard, I’ve been know to push out a VERY enthusiastic dick. The same is true of the InJoyUs. However, I was totally OK with this, as it stayed in for the rest of the time, and frankly, I often bet against strong, determined men staying in there when I clamp down and push in the throes. As a friend said this morning, “They just need to say it has an ejection feature when the mission is accomplished!” LOL!
• The angle, to me, seemed like it ‘used up’ a bit of the length of the toy. The Lily is measured at 7 inches insertable. My partner and I both agreed that another inch would have been perfect. Now, that could be because I’m a “thicc” girl, and it did have to get out past my thighs, but not all users are gonna be teeny-tiny. (The next person to try this out is gonna be a much smaller woman, so we’ll have additional feedback when that happens.)

All in all, I am feeling the first flushes of infatuation with this system, and expect that if things continue, I’ll be in love.

I look forward to using the Lela as well, and would LOVE to see more options of shapes and sizes in dildos from New Love Creations, so that I can continue using the InJoyUs for all dildo fuckery in the future.