What Are Your Kinky Questions? ASK THEM!

What Are Your Kinky Questions? ASK THEM!

What is kinky, anyway?

What questions do you have about kink?

OR what questions have you had about kink in the past when you were a brand-spanking new kinkster?

OR what questions would you want a newbie to kink to ask you or an expert that you trust?

(No need to say which is which, necessarily. grins)

If you have answers to the questions you pose, please share them as well. If you have answers to what other people ask, or opinions, please feel free to answer.

I’m looking to find out what you want to know, and to help you find out what you want to know.

FULL DISCLOSURE: I’m going to be writing a book about “What is kinky?” and I’ll probably take inspiration from your questions, and possibly use (with permission and attribution) quotes of your answers.

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    1. This is a good one.

      I can think of an easy answer: It’s scary if you don’t know how to hit someone—with hands, a paddle or a whip—and they might be afraid they’ll harm you. And no one wants to actually HARM someone they care about.

      It might help to get a few books or take a class or two together, to help your partner get comfortable with the skillset.

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