Couple’s Notes

Congratulations on doing this together!

I started on my own, and I loved it, but it really became a big joy for me when I learned to practice it with others.

Sharing this deep intimacy, trust, and pleasure with another person takes it to a whole new level for me, and the buzz I get off their pleasure is a heady drug. I just don’t need much more to keep me grinning from ear to ear.

I’m thrilled that you’ve chosen my program to guide you on this exploration. Really. Tickled pink!

HUZZAH! You ROCK!

Couples & Moresomes

And, as an aside, I acknowledge that many of you may be more than couples. Threesomes, foursomes and moresomes in butt play are absolutely welcome here. That said, I will use the term couple in the instructionals, because we’re starting out here, and it’s easier to begin play as I teach referring to a single giver and receiver.

You may, of course, have several givers. That sounds fun to me! Just know, then, that I’m refer to one or both or all of you when I say, “giver.”

And for multiple bottoms or receivers, same.

So, “couple” in the course of this class refers to a giver and a receiver. It could also refer to your partnership status or not, as you choose.

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So, what do you, as a couple need to know?

Relax

No matter what’s coming through the rear entrance, it helps to be relaxed. If you’re not 100% on-board with anal penetration, for the love of all that’s glitter and sparkly in the world, don’t do it.

The trauma isn’t worth it. Not to be cool. Not to please someone. Not for any reason. If you don’t want it, just don’t.

Now, this series and this book, especially, being the first step, is ALL about getting you relaxed, and helping you discover the pleasure that anal can bring.

The Experience

You may have toyed with anal in the past, either separately or together. That’s cool. I’m all for that!

However, in following this series, I have a favor to ask of you both.

Please do each exercise as written (and guided), no matter how rudimentary it may seem to you. Please give it your full attention.

There is a method to my madness. grins

In fact, I would suggest that even many who have experience in all of this butt stuff could learn a few things from taking it easy and slowly, and really focusing on their asshole.

LOL! Yeah, that sounds kind of weird.

Just trust me on this one.

Too Much Lube Is Never Enough!

Well, maybe that’s an exaggeration. But (butt!) lube is vitally important. You really, really want it nice and slickery back there.

I’m going to assume that you’ve read the lessons on Basic Safety, because, well, you want to do this right, which is why you’ve bought this guide.

If you haven’t read it, please do.

Now.

I’ll wait.

Ok. So when I mention that the anus and such has thinner skin, is easier to damage and blah, blah, blah? Well, that’s why lube is so important.

It cuts down on drag, which means less potential for chafing and tearing. Which is safer, and frankly, just feels better.

Trust me on this.

So, giver, add lube. As much as you want, as much as you need. Receiver, say if you would like more lube for comfort.

If you’re worried about making a mess, put down a towel, or a disposable puppy pad to catch the drips. Or, get a water-soluble lube that will come out easily in the wash.

Don’t Use The Force!

The whole point of these first few steps is relaxation and opening up the anal area to pleasure.

That means, the giver should use the lightest pressure. Let your finger slip in when it feels right, and if you’re in and the sphincter tightens, let your finger slip back out again without resistance.

It’s about building trust with your partner and your partner’s anus.

You want as much pleasure and as little trauma from your asshole as possible, and that means following the receiver’s body’s signals.

Be patient. You will feel their ass open slightly and “invite you in.”

If it doesn’t happen the first time you practice, don’t fret. The receiver should simply visualize, while the giver stays on the outside of your rectum. The next time you practice together, consider having the receiver take a warm, relaxing bath before starting, to ease tension.

Receiver, it may seem strange to have something go in “that way” if you’re new to this. Just remember, you take poops MUCH bigger than your giver’s finger everyday. You’ve both got this!

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Don’t Expect To “Get Off”

This class is not about getting off. Especially not this lesson.

Not saying that you won’t get to get off. After all, this is all about pleasure.

That said, a big part of pleasure that many miss out on is the pleasure of sensation with or without orgasm and ejaculation.

So, to go along with the experience, please don’t try to get off. At least the first time you do each step.

Just do the step. Relax as asked. Think for a moment about your experience.

Then, by all means, if you are hot and bothered, get off!

You can get off with your usual thoughts, or get off using what you’ve learned in this program. I’m fine with either. Hell, I’ll count it a win if you get off using this program as inspiration!

Positioning

You’ll want to find a comfortable position for the instructional and guided audios, because you’ll be at it for a while.

Of course, you can reposition, just pause the audio.

It may take time to find your favorite position, so don’t worry if it takes some experimentation. I’ve included three of my favorites:

Cross-Legged, Between Their Legs

This is one of my favorite positions, ever. I sit cross legged, my bottom’s thighs draped over my knees. It puts them in an open position to me, raises their ass a bit, allows me access to their body, and encourages them to relax completely, laying back.

The only draw back of this position is that the giver doesn’t have much leverage. For the first two lessons and lesson five, that will probably not be an issue, as there is no real pressure applied.

Cross-Legged, To The Side

This is a nice position as well, offering a bit more leverage for the giver’s dominant hand, as they can choose the side that suits them. Cross-legged, with one thigh over the giver’s knee pointed towards the receiver’s feet.

The only drawback of this position is that the receiver is not quite as naturally open, so they may close off a bit, or have to work to keep their legs spread (instead of relaxing).

IP, Or Inspection Position

This is sexy, and offers the giver a lot of leverage. The receiver is on their hands and knees, as in doggy style.

The drawbacks are that their knees may begin to hurt a bit, and they won’t be able to relax as easily. However, for some, the added sexiness and vulnerability of the position is worth it.

Of course, there are dozens of other possible positions (as noted in The Big Book of Ass), and only experimentation will help you choose the one that is best for you.

This And The Single’s Section

Sure, you’re welcome to read them both. There will be a lot of repeated stuff, catering to whether I’m speaking to one or “both” of you.

You’ve been warned.

Let’s Discuss!

Do you have any questions about how to make this happen with your partner? Any concerns?