Which you either know or you donāt.
And donāt say, āI know,ā and then keep giving yourself away. Thatās a fib. You SAY you know, but you donāt believe, or youād do something about it.
But letās say you donāt know.
What then?
Well, thereās a trick we use in hypnosis to get around a mental block. Itās imagining that you know.
You are giving yourself away (perhaps over and over) to people who donāt give as much (more!) back to you.
And you havenāt figured out how to stop, yet.
So, whatās the next step?
Imagining that you know that you are worth more than that, and thinking about what you would do if you were.
Then, do it.
You donāt HAVE to believe, 100%.
You really just have to know how you would act if you did believe.
Even that can be hard, sometimes. So, the next option is to imagine someone elseāa friend, a loved one, a super hero, a character from a bookāand imagine what THEY would do in the same situation.
And then, apply that to you.
(Minus the laser eyes or fist-swinging.)\
Almost two years ago, I wrote, Donāt āDo The Things,ā Be The Person Who Does The Things.
The focus was on not just acting in good ways, but internalizing the good thinking that leads to acting in those ways.
Two days later, I followed up with, āDo The Thingsā Until You Can Be The Person Who Does The Things, which was about if youāre not yet the person who does the things instinctually, then just do the things, and get used to the feelings.
A fake-it-until-you-make-it approach.
That is a valid step.
So, you may know you are too ducking awesome. Great! Iām proud of you.
Or you donāt.
But you could be.
If you want to.