ONE piece of kinky advice…

ONE piece of kinky advice…

If you could give ONE piece of kinky advice to newbie kinksters, or even to your past self when taking your first step into kink, what would it be?

Here’s mine:

Prompt: Dear past self or kinky newbie,

The ONE skillset I believe will make your kinky journey safer, sexier, and happier is to set and maintain your boundaries.

Take time to think about what you want and what you don’t want, and make those things a part of your life. And think about how you will react when people cross or push your boundaries. Practice it. Make your boundaries a part of everything you do.

Be willing to assert yourself when someone pushes a boundary, even when it’s a tiny little push. Because that will save you many instances of bigger pushes or crossing.

And, learn to do that even when you are really horny or falling in love. Because THAT is when you will need it most.

Good luck! You can do this.

Love,
Me

What would you tell kinky newbies or your past self?

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