Ownership is always mutual (for me).

Ownership is always mutual (for me).

He is my sub, I am his Queen.

I am owned as thoroughly as he. Equally, with different responsibilities and tasks.

Were I to abandon my new scarf by leaving it on a subway, it will no longer be my scarf. Someone else will pick it up, and it will become theirs.

It remains mine only so long as I keep investing myself in it and it’s care.

(Interestingly, the original meaning of “invest” is to clothe yourself with something, to enter into something that you wrap around yourself.)

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