Do I Need To Buy Anything Special?

Yes. At the very least, you’ll want lube.

Lubes

Does the kind of lube matter?

It really does.

“However, conventional vaginal lubricants are designed to be slightly acidic, making them less suitable for anal play, as the strong chemicals they contain, like glycerine and polypropylene glycol, are known to damage the lining of the rectum, but there are lubricants out there that are specifically designed for anal play.”

Susi Lennox, sexual health expert and co-founder of organic intimacy company Yes Yes Yes.

So, at the very least, get yourself some anal-specific lube, or get yourself the ingredients to mix of a batch of my favorite butt stuff in the world:

Miss Scarlett’s Face Cream

There’s a story behind this cream. It was developed by a friend, Jack, who was the boy of Miss Scarlett for a while. She nicknamed him “Face,” because he was so pretty. Thus, a legend of anal lube was born.

• 1 cup water
• 1 Tablespoon J-Lube powder
• 2 cups Crisco
• 1 oz. water-based lube

Bring water to a boil. In a mixing bowl (I prefer glass), pour water over the J-lube powder and begin whipping with electric mixer, gradually increasing speed for 3-5 minutes (until the consistency of egg whites).

Then add Crisco (You want it to still be warm enough that it softens the Crisco, but not so hot it melts the Crisco) and continue beating until you reach a smooth consistency, about 5 minutes.

Mix in water-based lube. Voila! You can then season with the following “seasoning” ideas:

• a splash of Ambesol (good for beginners)—You don’t really want a lot of this. To numb your back areas means that you won’t feel pain, which could be signaling you that something is going wrong. Be very careful with this option.
• a dollop of Icy-Hot or Tiger Balm (advanced)
• a pinch of peppermint extract (advanced)
• cinnamon oil (advanced)

This recipe will last for several weeks, especially if stored in the refrigerator. A little goes a long way.

It is greasy, so it’s not really the kind of lube you will want in your mouth. Get all of your oral pleasuring done before you lube up with Face Cream.

Oh and if you’d like a laugh, here’s the story about my “Anal Lube” Amazon purchase.

Amazon has this nice real-time order tracking notification system. Well, I forgot about that feature.

A few weeks after receiving lube, I hear a notification on my child’s tablet. I discover that Amazon order alerts are being sent to her tablet – fuck!

I try to casually ask if she’s been seeing alerts. She says she saw something weird…I’m so horrified that we just don’t discuss it, if she asks I’ll be open but other than that – convo aborted…

Let’s see, would that be the lace masks, crop, or ANAL Lube? LOL!

— Anonymous

Other Lubes

And now, for the OTHER lubes.

Coconut Oil

Coconut Oil As Personal Lubricant — Pros & Cons, On Medium

Coconut oil is 100 percent natural, good for your skin, food-grade (so you’re not putting weird chemicals in your bum) and is easily washed out of cotton and linen sheets.

You can get food-grade coconut oil just about anywhere these days.

You can also find whipped coconut oil for body moisturizing in many health food stores, and it feels quite lovely.

You can also make little “treats” for your anal Bottom. Press coconut oil into little candy molds (hearts, circles, etc.) and freeze.

Pop them up the butt in play, and let the cold oil melt inside before entry.

You may find yourself leaking a bit after a day of playing with coconut oil, and that’s nothing to be worried about.

For those who may have issues with constipation or soreness, it can actually ease the pathway the next day.

A drawback of coconut oil is that it is not very “sticky,” meaning that your anus (or your partner’s anus) can “squeegee” it off toys or fingers or cocks, or whatever you’re using relatively easily, drying the slide (which you DON’T want).

So, keep an eye (a feel) on the coconut oil lube, and add more often, more often than you think is necessary.

Swiss Navy, Silicone

Stays silky smooth and lasts. Does not stain as much as some other brands. Also has no discernible taste.

Swiss Navy Silicone is hypoallergenic, non-absorbable, and latex-compatible. Don’t use with any toys that are silicone, jelly, or cyberskin, unless you put a condom over them, to protect them.

(I nearly always recommend using a condom with toys, if not to prevent them from melting or to protect yourself, then to make clean up that much easier!)

Boy Butter Personal Lube

Boy Butter lasts a long time and has sensually creamy feel. Is not safe with most condoms. Non-staining, washes with plain water.

Bad Dragon Cum Lube

This creamy, white-colored lube closely resembles real semen. The clear version looks and acts similar to pre-cum or vaginal fluids. It’s designed to specifically look and act like real semen, so it is not as thick as some other lubes mentioned.

Cum Lube is not going to last as long as some other lubes, but if you’re going for slickness and a cum-like experience, this lube can’t be beat.

It may stain sheets.

Kinksters Say:

Uberlube. “For me both taking and giving, I love silicone lube. If you don’t need to worry about silicone toys it the best, just the fucking best. I’ve been using Uberlube lately cause I like the bottles but it’s kinda too pricey. I’m not sure what my cheaper option would be.” — DrTentacle, 44M, Switch

Good Clean Love. “For use with silicone toys, I like Good Clean Love which is reasonably priced and available at Target even if it’s a bit vanilla flavored.” — DrTentacle, 44M, Switch

Shibari Personal Lubricant – Water Based. “Is pretty damn good and it’s safe to use with silicon toys.”— MS_TAU, 41F, Dom

The Butters. It feels heavenly plus you can use it on your hair and your skin. — MS_TAU, 41F, Dom

Sliquid Silk. “Great for pegging.” —MintyMix, “It’s a water based and silicone hybrid. Not enough silicone in it to damage toys, just enough to keep things slippery.” — CallMeCara, 34F, Domme

Hiny Helper Anal Calm Balm. “My favorite. A little bit goes a long way. Plus, there’s no wait time.” —Inner_Slut_Mama

Pure Romance Whipped Belgian Waffle. “Smells great and works amazing for anal play.” — VioletLyte/34/Female/Leatherwoman

Fuckwater. “It cleans up well and stays lubricated a long time.” — Ratherthepain 32F, Primal Prey

Wicked Sensual Care Anal Jelle. “Stays slick, yet not sticky, for a long time. I like their whole line, actually.” —4IslandSprite, Female, Sensualist

MISTER B Fist Extreme. “Not too sticky but doesn’t dry out. Silicone based. I prefer the pump action bottle for non fisting play and the tub for fisting play (nice to be able to scoop with one hand!)” —mutable_, 34M, Switch

“Gun Oil is my go to. If someone needs extra help, then Boy Butter. It’s amazing, but it has a smell, is messy, and and taste, but it can make difficult moments go super smooth.” — NYC_Josh, 37 M, Master

Pink. “I like Pink (makes skin feel soft) or Gun Oil (must be water-based for either if you’re using a condom or toy, but it can wear off quicker than the silicone, so be sure to add more as needed). — Tadie, 31, Dominant Woman

Hemorrhoid/Piles Cream

Anal play is as much about after care as any other facet of BDSM. Once you’ve finish your scene, applying some high-quality hemorrhoid cream to the anus (inside and out) can aid recovery.

Butt Plugs

Anal training goes easiest (in my experience) with a good set of butt plugs in various sizes.

If you or your partner is new to anal play and training, I recommend starting with a butt plug with a small circumference (about the width of a large finger or thumb at its widest point).

Wearing a plug for a few hours/all day can really relax the muscles, even if it is not very large, or you have already done some finger play.

Once that size feels comfortable, you could buy larger or you can buy a butt plug kit with a few graduated sizes, and start off with everything you need.

SquarePeg

SquarePeg makes their toys out of silicone, which is not only 100 percent safe but can also be boiled, put through the dishwasher, or bleached to sterilize.

My Pet and I really like their Egg Plugs in SuperSoft Bronze. They are comfortable enough to wear all day and come in a wide range of sizes. Perfect for training and prepping for an easy-glide back-end experience.

Anal Trainer Kit From Real Vibes

This Anal Trainer Kit From Real Vibes includes four plugs in graduated sizes:

• Small: 4 x 1 inches (10.2 x 2.5 centimeters)
• Medium: 4.5 x 1.12 inches (11.4 x 2.9 centimeters)
• Large: 5 x 1.25 inches (12.7 x 3.2 centimeters)
• XLarge: 6.25 x 1.5 inches (15.9 x 3.8 centimeters)

I love this kit not only for its reasonable sizes (great for beginners!), but also for the 100 percent medical-grade silicone, nice smooth shapes and suction-cup flared bases.

It is an inexpensive kit, easy to clean and includes four sizes. Win-win-win!

Hush

This remote-controlled (by your phone) butt plug comes in two sizes:

• Small: 3.8 x 1.5 inches (10 x 3.8 centimeters)
• Medium: 3.8 x 1.75 inches (10 x 4.5 centimeters)

It’s waterproof, the exterior is made of 100 percent silicone and works like a charm! The vibrations have different levels, from low to high, and on high are extremely powerful.

It’s fun for a night out OR in, and offers hundreds of pleasure possibilities.

“Bluetooth-enabled for local or long distance play. You can connect it to Spotify (because you haven’t lived until your butt has buzzed to Hall and Oates). You can also make it reactive to ambient sound. Really I think the only thing it won’t do is my taxes.” —just_bird

Kinksters Say:

“Babes ‘n’ Horny do some beautiful ones, (dildos too). Not cheap but fantastic quality.” — VelvetClaw, 46F, Domme

njoy Pure Plug 2.0. “I have had so many partners over the years who are raving fans of their favorite size of this plug.” —BondageNexus

Marc Dorcel Geisha. “It has a hard inner ball inside that shifts the weight around. It was one of my first plugs and is on the smaller side. Certainly makes car rides more interesting if your driver is fond of every pothole in town!” —just_bird

Tantus Neo. “The Neo is great for beginners (and a good all around modest-sized plug).” —WeAreAllSluts

Playspace Protection

For many, a towel does the trick. Or puppy pads.

Puppy pads are not my favorite, because of the throw-away waste and plastic, but many people love them for their ease of use.

My favorite is a fitted mattress protector, with the sides cut off to make a throw. Or a crib protector (a bit smaller).

Dildos

Dildo size and firmness preferences are going to vary wildly from person to person.

If you have the time and money, start small and smooth, and work your way to larger and more elaborate as you get experience.

So get a really good, solid, small-to-average-size dick and work with that.

Also, if you and your partner are starting this venture together, consider shopping together. It can be a fun, sexy outing to go visit the nearest sex toy store and look at all the goodies.

Keep in mind that if you’re the giver, it’s not just a dick you’re picking out. It’s YOUR dick. So pick one you can relate to.

The receiver, of course, should have a say in size as they are the one taking it, but YOU have to be comfortable with your new extension.

Now, there is NO RULE saying you can have only one dick. You may have a dozen. But whether you have one or a hundred, you will want to feel good about your dick. Perhaps you want it to match your particular style, in color or decor or shape.

Money is often a limitation to getting the exact right product.

You may choose to go with a lower quality to start, and cover it with a condom, so you don’t have to fret over the contents of the toy, to check to see if you actually like all this butt play and the shape/size.

Realistic vs. Non-realistic

Some people prefer the realistic dicks, matching skin tone, body frame, weight, or overall size.

Others (like me) gravitate towards non-realistic dildos: bright colors, fantastical shapes, extreme sizes, even glitter or confetti.

The options and features can be as varied as the color and size choices.

No matter how realistic or not (dragon cock, anyone?), in my mind they are always mine. I paid for them, fuck with them and take care of them!

Harness vs. Harnessless

Again, it all boils down to preference and experience. Some will claim that harnessless dildos for anal play are the spawn of the devil himself, while others seem to enjoy them quite nicely.

It’s been my experience that most harnessless options work fine for girl-girl fun (DIV sex), but not as well for anal penetration.

The reason is that most anal sphincters are much stronger than most vaginal muscles. In other words, the anal muscles will grip the anal end much more tightly than the vagina will grip the vaginal end.

YMMV (Your Mileage May Vary).

That said, I’ve recently experienced and reviewed a new-to-me harnessless toy, the InJoyUs, and I’m cautiously optimistic about my results. I’ll include my review here and I’ll be updating the review with feedback from other body types and genders on the Dating Kinky blog.

Harnessless Options

Feeldoe: Multiple Sizes

Although this is a harnessless dildo as designed, few women can keep them in place easily during anal.

Most who enjoy the Feeldoe successfully do so combining it with a harness to hold it in place.

If you have a harness that might work with the Feeldoe and you also have a vagina then you may want to try one out, although I’ve heard of a few people putting the bulb in their anus and fucking that way, which makes it fun for all the people!

The silicone the Feeldoe is made out of is a bit harder than most strap-on dildos.

This is to give it some rigidity, I am sure, but my Bottom finds that it can be a bit uncomfortable.

Because of the way the Feeldoe fits, they can end up being not quite long enough for some couples.

A full-figured woman with thick thighs and ass may end up with only 4 inches (10cm) or a bit more left to work with, once it’s inserted.

Then, when trying to penetrate it tends to push back a bit more anyway, so it’s less than ideal for some.

Share: Multiple Sizes

Reports are that the Share has a better angle of entry (on the female side) than the Feeldoe (which had no bulbus female end and is just a straight line). However, you will likely still have to wear a harness with the Share to keep it from possibly slipping out.

InJoyUs: Multiple Sizes

I have long desired a truly strapless experience for play with dildos and I’ve tried a few options. Unfortunately, all were disappointing.

They were too hard and pokey (I guess that’s why they thought they needed to maintain the “shape”), they were oddly shaped or the ‘inner bits’ were just…not shaped right.

Some were good enough for use on women but failed miserably when engaged with the much stronger muscles of the anus, which is my primary interest.

I kept up hope, but I admit that my optimism was fading.

Then, while I was researching this book, someone mentioned the InJoyUs. I went to check it out, of course, even though I was deeply skeptical. After all, I’d read glowing reviews of all the others I’ve tried and NONE of them really worked like anyone said.

I was thinking, “Maybe I’m the weirdo, here,” not for the first time.

But the InJoyUs LOOKED different right off the bat. Something about it seemed better-thought-out. A small flame of hope sprung up, and I sent an email.

“Something, something, blah, blah, blah. InJoyUs was recommended, and I’d love to review it for inclusion in my book, if it works. More yadda yadda…”

And so, not long after, I got my review box.

Now, John at New Love Creations had already mentioned that he’d gotten a bit of flack for his packaging, and when I opened it up, I could see why. It’s certainly not what I would expect for a product of the price and caliber I was expecting and could use an update for sure.

However, I wasn’t going to be sticking packaging in my or my partner’s butt, so it was easy to open up and look at the product itself.

Because I’d talked some with John about how he’d designed, tested and engineered this thing, I was prepared for it to feel solid. And it does. I was almost concerned with HOW solid it felt, like the weight might be detrimental.

It was not at all. More on that in a bit.

I got the InJoyUs in my package, along with the Lily and Lela dildos. Two very different sizes/shapes.

All are made from pure platinum-grade silicone, which is pretty much a must for me these days. It’s body-safe, odorless, hypoallergenic, and super easy to clean. Just pop those babies in the top rack of the dishwasher or clean with bleach.

The InJoyUs has a stabilizer inside (it’s not visible, nor can it be felt) of a super-strong metal, to maintain shape and erection angle, which I really like.

But NONE of that mattered if it didn’t feel good and stay in.

And it took a couple of days for me to make the scene happen, and I was champing at the bit to try it out.

A set of detailed instructions came with the toys, which I looked over and promptly ignored.

LOL!

Seriously, though, while I believe the instructions are needed, and they are well-done, I figured I had this.

After all, one of the reasons I want a strapless solution is to make this sort of play more spontaneous and less fussy. If I can’t just pop it in and go, then it won’t really add value to my life.

So, I chose to wing it, and wing it I did.

Well, I did realize that Step 1 was critical after popping the internal portion and feeling an urgent need to pee.

So, that taken care of (and lesson learned), it was back to play.

Without going into graphic details, the results were overwhelmingly positive for butt play with my male partner.

• InJoyUs was easy to insert.
• It felt both solid and secure in place.
• We played with the Lily to start, and it has a nice extra clitoral stimulation pad.
• Both my g-spot and clitoris were happily stimulated.
• It stayed in and felt good—I orgasmed more than a few times.

Definitely overwhelmingly positive.

There were a few hiccups:

• It takes some time, I think, to get used to the angle and use. This was our first time, and we tried cowgirl, missionary (plus variations) and lotus positions. Pretty basic, and successful, although learning the angle of thrust was a thing. Fun to learn, though!
• When I orgasm hard, I’ve been know to push out a VERY enthusiastic dick. The same is true of the InJoyUs. However, I was totally OK with this as it stayed in for the rest of the time, and frankly, I often bet against strong, determined men staying in there when I clamp down and push during the throes. As a friend said this morning, “They just need to say it has an ejection feature when the mission is accomplished!” LOL!
• The angle, to me, seemed like it ‘used up’ a bit of the length of the toy. The Lily is measured at 7 inches insertable. My partner and I both agreed that another inch would have been perfect. Now, that could be because I’m a “thicc” girl, and it did have to get out past my thighs, but not all users are gonna be teeny-tiny. (The next person to try this out is gonna be a much smaller woman, so we’ll have additional feedback when that happens.)

All in all, I am feeling the first flushes of infatuation with this system, and expect that if things continue I’ll be in love.

I look forward to using the Lela as well, and would LOVE to see more options of shapes and sizes in dildos from New Love Creations so that I can continue using the InJoyUs for all dildo fuckery in the future.

Harness Options

Tantus Curve: 6.75” x 1.5” (17cm x 4cm)

The Tantus Curve93 is a solid, medium-sized dildo made of silicone. The curve is reported to hit the prostate quite nicely.

It comes in three colors: black, deep purple and a medium purple.

Vixskin: Multiple Sizes

Realistic feeling, skin-like material of 100 percent platinum silicone. Feels like skin on the outside, has a solid inner core for functional use.

VixSkin dildos are by far the most realistic feeling dildo I’ve ever experienced, and I can’t say enough wonderful things about it.

If you warm it on a heating pad or in a bowl of hot water, it feels SO REAL it’s crazy. It also warms to body temperature very quickly.

It’s firm enough to enter when he’s tight, but it does require a BIT of attention as it can slip out easier as it flexes quite a bit.

It’s not “soft” but it is not stiff rigid either, very realistic for a larger penis. The outer layer is squishy soft and so so comfy on the skin (and the anal walls). It’s yummy.

Vixen silicones by this company are odor-free, do not sting and can be used with silicone lube or Crisco/oil-based lubes (something that some silicone dildos can’t be used with).

Lifetime warranty.

Bad Dragon: Multiple Sizes

Colorful and creative fantasy dicks.

Bad Dragon has created a line of high-quality dildo sculptures, guessing at what different mythological creature dicks might look like.

Varied dragons, werewolves, cockatrices, drakes, sharks and more are represented in colors ranging from a deep fiery red to variegated blues, purples and silver.

Most of their dildos come in multiple sizes, so you can choose your own comfort level, and you can either buy a pre-made dick in an available color, or you can choose the color you want and have it custom created for you.

Vibrators

As most know, a vibrator is like any other toy on crack, LOL!

Take the intensity of a good dildo or butt plug, add some vibration, and you have even more of a good thing.

There are so many different varieties out there, that it will come down to personal preference, but here are a few ideas to get you started with vibe play for your butt.

Tip: Take your batteries out

Get in the habit of taking your batteries out of the vibrator each time you’re finished using it.

Batteries left in your vibrator for extended periods can corrode and leak into the battery case, destroying your vibrator.

Also, leaving the batteries in your vibe increases the chance that it may turn on (with a jostle from you, a child or a pet) to a very low speed and either drain the batteries or give you some very interesting explaining to do.

Hitachi Magic Wand

The word “Hitachi” mentioned around those in the know will light up faces, elicit huge grins and often bring up amazing stories of orgasm and joy.

The Hitachi is not a traditional vibrator in the sense that it is insertable, and also requires plugging in, which can limit the convenience, yet for those of us who love the Hitachi, we are willing to sacrifice.

The original Hitachi Magic Wand has two speeds: high and low. Consider getting a speed controller for speeds from a soft hum to screaming-and-tearing-the-sheets-in-ecstacy.

The Hitachi also has many different accessories, from insertable dildos and prostate massagers to external uses for clitoral stimulations and dick massagers.

Hitachi Tip:

As a clitoris-having G-type, one of my favorite things is to lay the head of the Hitachi against my lover’s anus, then ride it with my clit.

This can be done with or without an insertion attachment, as even just the vibration against the will cause a lot of pleasure for the Bottom.

Aneros Vice

The Aneros line of prostate massagers has come highly recommended by so many people, that it’s a wonder they aren’t more widespread.

The Vice is the first vibrating version of their popular line, and is made of 100 percent silicone with a removable vibrator for easy cleaning.

Echo Silicone Vibrating Dildo, 6.75 x 1-3/8 inches (17cm x 3.5cm)

Made of 100 percent premium silicone for easy cleaning, the Echo107 dildo has a realistic size with spiral details to add extra pleasure and massage.

It has a flared base, so can be used easily with a harness.

Harnesses

Harnesses are, of course, made for hands-free plundering of the booty with a dildo.

There are many types of harnesses, and personal preference will always play a huge part, along with body type, personal style, and physical abilities.

Panty-like harnesses give the least control overall and are most susceptible to changes in the wearer’s size. If you lose weight after getting a panty-based system, the panty harness won’t work as well because the panty has to fit snugly without any wiggle to give you real control over your toy and movement.

However, on the plus side, they slip on easily and don’t take as much time to get settled. Better for spontaneity.

A strap-based system generally has quite a bit of room for adjustment and is the gold standard for most givers, but does take some fiddling to get on and off.

Having a good harness of both types is ideal for most scenarios. Heck, have five or six!

Tip: Washing Harnesses

Use a lingerie bag to keep the straps from catching in the agitator (if you have one) and to keep materials from getting pulled.

Doc Jonson Vac-U-Lock Platinum Supreme Harness

The Platinum Supreme Harness is a Vac-U-Lock harness and is also O-ring compatible. It is adjustable up to a 60 inch (152 centimeters) waist. It has an open crotch and rear, making it suitable for men who want to wear the harness instead of using their own equipment, and also good for women who want some genital loving without removing their strap-on.

Made of smooth neoprene and is easy to clean in the washing machine.

Divine Diva Plus-Sized Strap-On

The Divine Diva harness fits waist sizes from 25 – 82 inches and up to 44 inch legs (waist sizes from 63.5 – 208 cm and up to 111.75 cm legs). It’s designed to be comfortable, functional and adjustable, and includes three interchangeable O-rings to accommodate dildos (1.5 inches, 1.75 inches and 2 inches inside diameters).

Velvet Nest

Sweet and sexy, Velvet Nest harnesses are made of colorful cottons, machine washable, comes in several adjustable sizes, and will fit different toys with a flat base easily. The cutest I’ve found, ever. Squee!

SpareParts Harnesses

Spare Parts harnesses, especially the Joque, are raved about everywhere as comfortable, adjustable, washable and durable—everything you could want in a harness.

The new Deuce can be worn by any gender and the larger size accommodates up to 65 inch (165 centimeters) hips.

rodeoH

rodeoH offers panty-style harnesses, very comfortable from good quality cotton knits. Some feminine styles, many focused towards more masculine looks, like boxers and briefs. The Duo underwear harness they offer is made specifically for use with InJoyUs, Feeldoes, Shares, etc. for insertable fun.

InHerTube

InHerTube offers various types of harnesses made of easy-to clean rubber. In addition to the tradition harness, they offer a double-penetration harness, hand harness, chest/thigh harness, wrist cuff harness, and a shoe/boot harness.

Jaguar Harness Purple Leo Combo

(Simple starter kit with included toy.)

The positioning of the base of the dildo in the Jaguar Harness sits right on the hood of the clit so the pressure from stimulation goes to the right spot.

Now, to hit the clit, the dildo does sit low, so it may be a different kind of workout than you are used to, but once you get accustomed to it, it feels natural.

Because the Jaguar Harness is leather, it requires IMMEDIATE clean up after play, waiting until the next day can damage the material.

Lifetime warranty.

Toys (Beyond Butt Plugs & Dildos)

Anal Beads

Anal beads are for inserting into the anus, one at a time, as many as you can handle, then pulling them out slowly for amazing sensations.

Anal beads should be smooth in texture, so they do not tear the lining of the rectum. Sometimes anal beads and other sex toys have a rough seam around each bead. It’s important to file these rough edges with an emery board before use, or cover them with a condom (or both).

Make sure that the cord is strong and that the beads are connected securely. Cheap anal beads can cause a lot of unexpected trouble.

Anal beads are often connected with a nylon cord or string. I’d be very careful of these, as there is no way to clean them easily, so they are really one-person toys, unless you cover them with a condom during use.

If you choose not to use a condom, consider buying silicone beads rather than plastic, which are porous and more likely to trap bacteria.

Anal Hooks

Anal hooks are a new adventure to most. They are fantastic for predicament bondage and can be included quite easily in rope\shibari riggings. Even something as simple as tying to a collar or long hair will make your subject squirm with each movement.

I personally like to use one inside my partner with a rope I can hold as they go down on me. Sort of a happy incentive!

Anal hooks come with two loop “ends.” One type is flat with the hook (edge against the body), the other is perpendicular to the hook (flat against the body). There are pros and cons to both and each has its fans.

Tips for Toys

Layering Toys

There’s no shame in layering toys. Try the We-Vibe. The vibrations travel through the dildo, which is also fun.

Ass Play During Other Play

I’ve already mentioned using an anal hook to encourage certain behavior, but consider the many options: butt plugged while vaginally or anally inserting into another, anal beads pulled out during oral, some sphincter tickling during a massage…the possibilities are endless.

When Choosing A Flared-Base Dildo For Harness Use

Using a dildo with a base that has more suction or “give” to it results in more mobility and intensity of sensation. A dildo with a hard base can result in a bruised pelvic bone.

Ouch!

Pay Attention To Cleaning Instructions

Different toys need different cleaning methods. I prefer high-quality silicone that can be put in the dishwasher, but not all toys are so durable.

Also, wrapping a toy in a condom helps speed cleanup.

Let’s Discuss!

WHEW! That’s a LOT of toys! Were any of them familiar to you? Which ones were new, but piqued your interest? Do you have favorite butt toys to share?