What If It Hurts—A LOT?

So, it didn’t go well this time. You got insertion, but it hurt and you had to stop.

That’s OK. We all have off days.

Usually when this happens it’s just related to not taking enough time the first few times. And that time may be foreplay and training, building up for days or weeks.

Remember: Go slow. Gradually stretch. Use LOTS of lube.

If you are the receiver, it may help you to relax if you also stimulate your genitals. The pleasure there can actually relax your muscles.

So, why is there pain? The main reason it hurts during anal sex is FEAR!

Truth be told, most people have no problem pooping out larger logs than many cocks. Because that feels natural and they’re relaxed.

When a receiver is afraid (even way down deep inside), their internal sphincter will tighten up and any penetration will cause pain.

Blame will not help. They are not afraid of the giver. Their non-logical animal brain is screaming and there ain’t nothing can be done about that except be patient. Be supportive. Do aftercare and try again another time when your receiver is ready again.

Also, consider taking Learn To Love Anal, whether you are playing together or solo. It’s ALL ABOUT creating pleasure without pain in anal play.

Let’s Discuss!

DO you try moving past pain, when you feel it? If so, what are your favorite tips?