Dating Kinky Presents: The Big Book of Ass

Dating Kinky Presents: The Big Book of Ass

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A Bit About Gender, Pronouns & Language

A Bit About Gender, Pronouns & Language

I’ll state right up front that this book is not for everyone.

However, if you’re interested in kink and awesome butt stuff, you’ll find most of what I have to say relatively tame compared to what you’ll see out there if and when you do jump in.

I like to drop an F-bomb or two, and I speak frankly. I don’t intentionally go for shock value, because when people are shocked they don’t learn as well, and my main goal is to educate.

I may have a bad mouth, but I can do great things with it.

That said, there are a few things you need to know as you read on.

On Gender & Pronouns

A butt-play enthusiast can be any gender.

In this book, I’m talking to you. I don’t know your gender, and I don’t assume it. You are just “you” to me.

I always do my best to be cognizant of gender-sensitive topics. I will speak from my experience and from my research.

For example, when I say, “woman,” I mean cis- or trans-women, or any people who identify as a woman primarily or for at least 50 percent of their daily life.

When I say, “man,” I mean cis or trans-men, or any people who identify as a man primarily or for at least 50 percent of their daily life.

Referring to bodies, I’ll use penis-havers for those of whatever gender who have penises. I’ll use vagina-havers for those of any gender who have vaginas. I’ll use p-spot havers and g-spot havers the same way.

I believe in the range of gender, and I will attempt to address my book to speak to all, as inclusively as possible. Take from it what works for you and leave the rest behind.

On Capitalization & Grammar

Oh. And Capitalization.

On BDSM chat boards and websites, many people make a big deal about capitalizing (or not capitalizing) titles.

For example, Master would be capped, while slave is not.

Dominant or Domme is capped while submissive is not.

Slaves and submissives go so far as to always use lower-case “i” when referring to themselves, or not using the “I” pronoun at all, but avoiding it by referring to themselves in the third person.

Instead of “I would like to point out,” this might be stated as, “he would like to point out,” or “this boy would like to point out,” neither of which will be in use in this book, or any other I write, except as examples.

I (mostly) write English correctly, and that means capitalizing “I” in sentences, capitalizing the first letter, and NOT capitalizing other words in that sentence, just because they are referring to a dominant. Master, dominant and domme are not proper names.

I will capitalize BDSM, D/s and M/s, because they are (in my view) established concepts that have formed with the capitalization as part of the written expression.

Like LOL! For me, it’s just not the same written as lol or Lol. If I’m laughing out loud, it’s in caps.

I’m quirky. I know this about myself. *smiles*

Let’s Discuss!

Do you have any questions about gender that might change how you interact in this class?

How do you identify? Have you ever felt like identifying in another way?

As I noted in the lesson: I believe in the range of gender, and I will attempt to address this to speak to all, as inclusively as possible. Take from it what works for you, and leave the rest behind.

Don’t be a jerk to those who believe differently than you. You MAY, though, ask questions, if you have them.

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    1. It’s pretty damn amazing, for sure! I love sharing this information.

      The book we have scheduled for May is all about orgasms, specifically, so keep an eye out. *smiles*

    1. YES! It’s there as a download link up there, next to MOBI and ePub. *smiles*

      We just recently added the PDF read-online feature, and we haven’t updated all of our books to that format (although we are working on it.)

        1. Could you try again, and make sure you’re logged in?

          This is the older layout, bu you should see: Link to Full Book Download: PDF | ePUB | MOBI somewhere on the page. We’ll update this in the next week or two to the new layout.

          *smiles*

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