What’s In It For Me?

Heck if I know.

I mean, that all depends on who you are, and why you’re thinking about engaging in anal play or sex.

There are so many reasons, after all.

You’re curious. Hey, this is as good as reason as any that follow. A good, healthy sexual curiosity is a wonderful thing.

You’re obsessed. There are some people who just love butt stuff, even before they’ve ever tried it. It fascinates them, intrigues them and they can’t stop thinking about it.

You want to experience penetration. You’d like to be entered and filled, and for whatever reason (wrong plumbing, for example) standard PIV (penis-in-vagina) with you is not an option.

You like it “dirty.” Perhaps you’d like to be your partner’s “dirty, dirty slut,” or your lover’s “down-and-dirty pet.” And I don’t mean messy, here. I just mean breaking taboos, leaving the pristine sex of the Bible behind and exploring other headspaces with your partners (or just by yourself, sure).

You crave the power dynamic. For many, giving or receiving anal represents a power dynamic of dominance or submission, owning or being owned, taking or giving up control.

You revel in gender fluidity. Perhaps you fancy a bit of gender play or role-reversal. Because the anus is available to everyone, regardless of their biological sex, it can be a perfect tool for those who’d enjoy trying out sex in a way that another gender could also experience it.

For penis-having folk, this can be receiving anal penetration. For vagina-having folk, this is a way to be penetrated without using the vagina.

You enjoy pleasure in all forms. Maybe you’re just the type who wants to experience pleasure in as many different ways as possible, and you’re looking to explore new territory.

Or, it may be a combination of all of these things and more.

Truth be told, only you can determine just what you might get out of anal play, and whether it’s worth exploring for you. 

Let’s Discuss!

Do any of these reasons resonate with you? Do you have others you’re willing to share?