If I Do It A Lot, Is It Going To Make Me Incontinent?

No.

No.

No.

Anatomy generally doesn’t work that way. Just like the vaginal canal does not change shape with a lot of use, or grow to 7 inches in diameter just because a baby has passed through it, a healthy anus will not “stretch out” uncontrollably.

Having anal sex will likely make you feel like you need to poop right away.

That’s normal.

And it may come out more easily.

Also normal.

Especially if you just filled your butt with a bunch of lube to help everything slide.

And if your partner ejaculated in there, well, that’ll also want to find its way out, making things slippery and slidey.

But long-term incontinence? Nope.

Not unless you experience incredibly reckless and rough use, or you practice unsafe dilation and rip or tear your actual muscles irreparably or damage your nerve endings.

Which can happen.

But it’s rare. According to studies, for people with fecal incontinence (about 3 percent of the population), regular anal sex was practiced by only 2-4 percent more people than not.

So, out of 10,000 people, about 300 will have fecal incontinence. Out of that number only 6-12 more people had regular anal sex than didn’t.

Not big numbers, and by no means an exhaustive or conclusive survey.

Other studies suggest the numbers might be a bit higher, but did not show cause versus correlation (my numbers up there only show correlation, TBH).

If you do it WRONG, it could make you incontinent.

Your S2, S3, and S4 nerves extend out from the sacrum and are involved with the functioning of the pubo-rectal sling (responsible for your continence), and can be damaged with unsafe play, thus rendering you incontinent.

For example, wearing a plug too large for you (and your current training stage) could place too much pressure on the rectal walls. That could restrict blood flow enough over time that you could damage tissue and damage nerves.

So, as you train your butt for taking larger toys or body parts, make sure to take breaks to allow any blood that may have been blocked due to pressure to flow and feed all those important body parts.

The rectum lies directly against the sacrum, where the S2, S3, and S4 nerves emanate. You can cause damage to these nerves by extended periods of pressure cutting off blood flow, or by force—like with a hard toy used roughly.

Pay attention to pain, numbness, or tingling (like pins and needles) in any of the following areas during or after butt play or plug wearing:

• glutes (buttocks)
• backs of thighs
• perineum
• clitoris
• penis

These are your body’s warning signs of potential damage due to restricted blood flow or nerve damage.

Let’s Discuss!

Did you know about the pubo-rectal sling, or how you could damage your nerves before reading this lesson? Are you more or less likely to take care with large insertions moving forward?